Am I in the wrong ?

Question

So my partner does nothing but eat sleep game repeat literally from the moment he opens his eyes his on his Xbox and plays until he goes to bed ... I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant and his not even bothered in the baby kicking or even bothered with my little girl (not biologically his) I feel like it's going to come to a point where I ask him to get rid of his Xbox when the baby is here as I don't think it will change he will always be on it but I've been told by multiple people I shouldn't do that as it's wrong... but in my eyes how is it wrong for me wanting him to spend less time on his game and more time with us as a family.... would you ask you partner to get rid of his Xbox and spent more time as a family ? Or am I in the wrong?

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My husband before our daughter was born so like five years ago was effn obsessed with his phone playing some stupid game!  It was like a battle game and hed come home n was always on it. I told him repeatedly that games a pain in my ass. Then i told him seriously one night i get you want to hang out n relax on ur phone but enough is enough! You either are present when u get home or u dont need to be coming home!  Im not against u playing it occasionally but hell no is it ur life like that!  He got it and slowed down and within a month he stopped playing altogether and now hes like i was such a dork always playing that stupid game. So id talk to him about it and just be dead serious with him im not dealing with this and im sure as shit not raising ur child alone because u want to be a loser and zone out on a video game! Grow up and get out!  
But also to point out a lot of men dont care about pregnancy! Not to say he should make u feel shitty but my husband touched my belly once otherwise he doesnt!  He is excited but nothing like me!  Its a different experience for them until baby gets here.

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You can't force him to do his husband and fatherly duties by taking away his Xbox he isn't a child. He will do it if he wants to. It sucks to hear but its the truth. I use to be a gamer lady and dh is still a gamer man. He knows when to put the games down and attend to his husband and fatherly duties.

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I do not think telling him to get rid of the xbox is the answer, it would most likely result in him resenting you. You need to talk to him about how you feel about this, let him know you need more quality time and for him to be an active member of the household. Set clear expectations for both of your roles in the family, as well as identifying your needs.

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I honestly wouldn’t be with someone who couldn’t put a game down. I’d sit down and talk to him about setting time aside for you to be a couple and a family. Make sure you are on the same page regarding taking care of the baby about to enter your life. Don’t let him get away with not doing anything. My boyfriend likes to play games but he Max spend 50% of his free time doing it. We make sure we spend at least a few hours a night together. Maybe he can put the game down for a few hours in the evening and then play again later at night after you and your daughter have gone to bed. I hope you 2 can work out a compromise.

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When I was pregnant, I let my husband play his game on his day off. He usually asked me what I wanted to do first. I even encouraged him to go play as much as he like before baby comes because he won’t have time to play at all. 😂 Once the baby is here, he barely play his game. He just come home from work and then play with our baby.

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