Am I in a toxic relationship?

So I’m lost 😞 I’m 21 he’s 20 we have a 2 year old, 8 month old and am currently expecting at 27 weeks. First off I’d like to say this will be long lol! But I really care about him and love him and his family and they’ll always be family and my kids grandparents family, but honestly my feelings are starting to fade and it’s becoming easier to see my self with out it :( (his mom and dad support me either way and know what’s up lol)

Some things he does (without elaborating)

He wants me to be the perfect house wife and always have din ready by the time he comes home. ( now I try my best but I’m a real estate broker and I work from home all while also parenting all day)

It’s constantly like “I’d love to do what u do all day long my job is way harder”

He has major anger issues no psychical but even if I try to talk about my feelings he gets so angry and is like “I don’t see the problem whatever I need a break because I’m getting to angry” also he is supposed to start seeing a new counselor as that was a stipulation I set of he wanted to stay with me because he says he loves me, but he won’t take any absolutely any of his meds anymore.

Now he’s a great dad as far as to the kids, and that’s what makes this so hard tbh, now they would never be fully taken from there dad I’m not that type!!! Even when we took “a break” recently so he could “get help” I still let him FaceTime the kids every night so they could see him and he could say gn.

He thinks he’s a rapper lol... umm he wants to spend tons on that but when I explain to him why we can’t rn considering we moved back with my parents. He gets all mad and says “I supported your real estate dreams” and gets all upset but like I’m just trying to make a high income to be able to take care of the kiddos.

Even when I address the anger issues or anything he always just says “your the only one who thinks this way your only saying I have issues since u grew up with trauma”

My parents say that they’ll support whatever I choose but they constantly tell me and my dad tells him that the way he talks to me is disrespectful and he needs to put down the video games and help more around the house and me in gen because I’m hurting and sore.

It always gets turned on me like “babe I’m seeing a counselor she thinks I have adhd” but then he’ll switch up the story and say like “idk I think it was a phase” or he’ll come to bed either crying for some dumb reason or storming into bed and even if I try to talk in a rude tone he’s like “I’m fine” “nothing” and idk I have anxiety so I always think it’s me