Hi there, so I don’t post a lot in the community, but I just NEEDED to get this off my chest before I ranted to the wrong person in real life.

So, for about the past 6 months my S.O. Eric has been hinting about our engagement and saying things to make me believe that he’s going to propose to me on our upcoming anniversary.

My suspicions were confirmed when he asked me right out in the open a couple weeks ago if I was ready to get married (I said yes of course and he told me he was asking because although he wanted an element of surprise, he didn’t want to pressure me into an engagement).

I’ve been over the moon ever since! Doing things like creating a Pinterest vision board, thinking about the potential guest list, and the season I’d like to get married in etc…

Then, the other night my Eric comes to me and says “So, I spoke with my brother and told him I was planning on proposing… He told me that I can’t, I have to wait because he’s planning on proposing to Lisa.” And, what’s more is that his brother wants us to wait for them to get married and have their wedding before Eric even thinks about proposing to me.

Now, normally, I wouldn’t bat an eye at this but here’s a little backstory.

First of all Eric’s brother has constantly tried to one up him in everything they do in life, doesn’t matter what it is, Bob, the older brother (by 10 months) has to be better at everything and has to reach every milestone first. This isn’t my main point but it will become important later.

So, a couple years ago my SO’s brother “Bob” told everyone he was proposing to Lisa. He made a big deal out of wanting to travel out of the country to get a special ring from their grandmother to give to Lisa. We all went on this trip and we’re anxiously awaiting a proposal. Next thing you know, Bob and Lisa are fighting, everyone is stressed and it seemed like he was rethinking the engagement so, he never proposed.

Now it’s been almost Two Years and in this entire time we haven’t heard a peep from him (marriage plans wise).

I’m good friends with Lisa, so I’ve hinted to Bob a few times to let him know she was ready for him to propose again. Still, radio silence from his end.

Lisa decided to move on from the idea that she should be expecting to get married and so she just decided it wasn’t important anyway and instead, agreed with Bob to just start trying for a baby.

Considering all that, my S.O didn’t think that we would be stealing their “thunder” if he proposed to me first, even though he’s the “younger brother”.

But the SECOND he told Bob about proposing to me, suddenly Bob conjures all these plans to propose to Lisa… ON ERIC AND I’S ANNIVERSARY no less….

So this whole thing leads me to believe that not only does he have nothing planned, he just needs to be first to the gate when it comes to Eric.

I know that it’s possible that it’s not the case and he actually is planning to propose but in a way I can’t help but feel like he had his chance… Eric and I are ready to move on to the next stage in our life now that we own our home. We’re ready to get married and start a family and it feels like Bob has just thrown a wrench into everything.

Sorry for the long rant. But now I’m wondering am I in the wrong here or is Bob?