My boyfriends family keeps harassing us to move closer, but that means moving further away from my parents.

To start off, my bf (23M) and I (19F) are moving in together. He is moving into an apartment that I have already lived in for a year. Its in a town that isn't known for homeless people and crime. However, I live in a part that is highly surveiled by security and is known as the rich area. The crime in the neighborhood is super low, especially since we're two blocks from the police.

I currently live 45 minutes from my family. I am really close with them, but because of the commute we only see each other maybe once a month. Its been a serious struggle for me especially since my brother has severe autism and I'm one of the few people he's willing to talk to, let alone get him to leave the house.

My boyfriends parents are 20 minutes from the apartment. They live in a very rural and well off area thats got absolutely no crime. He currently lives 7 minutes from them. (I'm not moving in with him because he has 2 roommates)

We've been talking about where we want to go in a year when the lease is up. We want to buy a place but we can't agree on where to go. I refuse to go any further from my family, but I'm willing to leave the town I'm in. His family keeps making comments about how we need to move closer. They live 10 minutes from our job and keep using that as an excuse to move closer. Saying that driving 20 minutes is going to wear down on our cars so much (we live in America where 20 minutes is nothing to drive to work) and that we will spend so much on gas. They've even offered to help pay rent if we moved closer. (Rent in that area is around $1000 more just because its both a retirement area, travel spot, and a well off college town)

Every time I say no to moving closer to them I get a new comment about how bad it is to live that far away. I get he's close with his parents, but I miss my family too. I think being 20 minutes from his and 45 minutes from mine is a big enough compromise. Am I wrong?

Its getting to the point where I don't really want to move in with him in general if I have to choose between seeing my family and making his happy.