Woundering if he truly loves me or Is that old saying through actions speak louder than words

We’ve been dating now well kind of dating something we couldn’t put a name on it for it’s going to be a year in October and we had a rough patch there for a while he’s a lot older than me 30 years apart but it seems like that doesn’t matter anyway I found some things that he was hiding behind my back like things that were hurtful that should’ve been done they calling the police when he hurt me more and I want to see more because I didn’t even touch him. He choked me he bit me he did a lot and then he has enough nerve to take my cell phone away and then call the police. Of course I got charged and I’m on house arrest and probation meanwhile he would’ve been in the situation but he had the upper control because of his strength and went in my purse and took both of my cell phones and then made the phone calls 911 we’re at a different stage now he’s trying to get this EPO off that he put on me and I’m here today because we were supposed to do it online but it seems like he really wants it off and just within the last two months he’s been telling me he loves me but his actions say different.

For example you know I’ve gotten him a little cards just to let him know that I am thinking of him or I’ll buy him a chocolate bar if I buy myself a chocolate bar things of that sort him he comes to my place with just his stuff to eat dosent Off And dosent so is he just selfish or does he care about me or is he lonelier what is going on here does he really care and should I make this a priority in my life he’s got money and he’s helped me a lot but lately that’s slow down to nothing and he was helping me quite a bit and I have my own job but he didn’t discuss it or anything he just went from giving me money like all the time to like stopping in he’s always saying that I’m accusing him when I ask even a question he gets all upset and so is he really doing these things like that I’m accusing them of like you know if taking my clothes when there’s nobody else here just things like that what do I do?