Apologize to my bf and he said I’m overreacting

Yesterday I posted how I accidentally hit my bf hard with a slap behind the head. Today after I calmed down I called him and said “hey, I’m really sorry about what happened yesterday, but our relationship has become very toxic” and he proceeded to tell me im the toxic one and how he just jokes around when he tells me he has bitches or does disrespectful things. I asked him “ in the future when your daughter gets older and goes on a date w her bf and the guys stop the waitress and tells her ‘you’re my gf right’ you would be mad right?” He got mad and said “ I was just joking. You always overreact for no reason!!” I responded “I’m tired of you always supposedly joking around about other girls, especially in front of people around me. I look stupid and you’re purposely lowering my self esteem” He said whatever and hung up.

According to him there should be no reason for me to be mad because he was “joking”