Regretting letting in-laws move in

First off I want to say that my husbands parents are very nice and good people and they accepted me into their family from day one.

Last year my husband and I moved 10 hours to a new state got an apartment, jobs and started trying for a baby. I’m 8 months pregnant and the plan has always been for me to be a sahm for at least the first year, however I had to resign from my job at 20 weeks because of medical issues. This was financially okay even though it would have been better if I could have saved more money since we want to buy a house in 1 to 2 years. Emotionally it was hard for me to resign because I like working and this whole pregnancy has been hard because I don’t feel as useful as I was. Anyway, once our lease was up we decided to invite my husbands parents to also move here and rent a big house together (they are originally from a different state and I’ve never lived close to them but had visited for days at a time and they have done the same). We arranged everything and paid the deposit, first/last month rent and paid all the pet deposits (they have one small dog and took in their other sons very large puppy and we have one dog) (they also paid us back half once they moved.)We also have all the bills in our name and my husband is the primary renter.

I thought this would be a good idea because we want them to be close to their first grandchild and we know they couldn’t afford to move without our help. They took out a loan to pay movers/moving expenses and when I was looking at their finances to get approved for the house and they live pay check to pay check. They are also both severely overweight and have other medical issues that I guess I didn’t realize made them less mobile and less helpful than If they weren’t overweight. My MIL only showered like every 4 days because it’s really hard for her to get around. So I’m anxious about her holding our baby when she is dirty. Also she wears pjs around the house with holes where her dog ate it in the butt and in the front so I see her boobs and underwear.

It has only been a couple of weeks but our dogs don’t get along (their dogs bully ours and ours barks a lot) we also ask them to not leave medicine bottles around because our dog can chew through the bottles but they still leave it on the table or in their room with the door open. For the most part our dog stays in our room or our nursery and their dogs get the run of the house. Their dogs also pee and poop in the house multiple times a day even though we have a fenced in backyard they are just use to doing that from their old house. We never visited them while I was pregnant because the smell was so bad and it can’t be good for me or the baby when he is born. Their dogs also eat water and Gatorade bottles and they leave them all over the floor and brand new couches I bought with the money I saved before I was married. I’m afraid when our baby starts crawling he will choke on the plastic.

Lastly they are so loud. My husband works nights so he sleeps during the day and his mom yells at the tv and will yell from the living room to their bedroom to talk to her husband who she can’t hear so she will yell louder. Every morning at 7:30 when she comes out of the bathroom which is right outside our door she will scream her husbands name down the hallway and will wake me up. (This isn’t that big of a deal right now but when the baby comes I would prefer if he doesn’t get woken up). My husbands dad wakes up at 2-3 am everyday because their big dog kicks him out of bed but he isn’t loud so I know it’s possible to not wake people up constantly.

Also their room gets warmer than ours because it is on the opposite side of the air unit so they were suppose to bring a window unit but they threw it out and just blast the ac so my husband and I freeze all day. They also leave their window open all day letting the air out. They do this because their dogs like too stick their heads out it and have already broke the blinds once and the window screen. I have to wear a jacket inside constantly and I’m afraid our baby is going to be too cold.

They try to make it seem like they moved here to help me through the rest of my hard pregnancy and with a newborn but I clean up after them constantly and developed serve anxiety and I’m having panic attacks everyday with contractions because they are too close. I don’t want to spend the rest of what might be my only pregnancy and the first year of motherhood so anxious. My husband also has been having panic attacks but he thinks he just developed driving anxiety. I have told my husband I think I’m going to move 10 hours back to my home state with my mom and that he can come with me if he wants when the baby comes. If we do that we can keep paying half of the rent here so they don’t have to move/ break the lease. (They also said that once we buy a house they want to try to stay in this rental because they like it a lot but I think they aren’t expecting us to leave them with the financial burden only 2 months into the lease) our only other option that my husband and I discussed is to start looking for land to buy after our baby is born and move into a camper on it while we try to afford to build a house.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to hurt their feelings or put them in a bad financial spot. And I don’t want to take our baby away from them or my husband but I feel like running away. I want to find a solution before I snap and leave. My husband thinks we should just wait to see if things calm down. Please give advice, I know It’s not all their fault, I know if I didn’t have such bad cleaning ocd or overall anxiety i wouldn’t be this overwhelmed. I know that they are nice good people but we just shouldn’t have moved in together.