For the first time, I am doubting the kind of person I am

Good morning ladies..

Idk where to begin.. for the first time in my life I am doubting the kind of person I am.. I genuinely thought I was a kind, thoughtful person.. a person that was always taken for granted for being who I am.. a person that cares about people specifically the people I love.. a person that is always there for everyone even tho when I need someone, nobody is there for me.. last night the man that I love, told me what he thought of me.. (we have been fighting for the past week) and yesterday we sat down to talk.. I told him that we should but without point fingers or blaming one another.. but of course that didn’t happen.. he said that since our daughter was born 7 months ago, I changed.. that I don’t care about him.. that I’m selfish.. that I’m not there for him anymore.. that I’m not grateful for everything he has done.. everything has to be about me.. that I take his kindness for weakness.. in other words that I have become a shitty person.. that the things we agree that I needed to change of me.. that hasn’t happen.. while I’m over here thinking that I have been working on certain things about myself. That I have helped him so much.. that Ian always there for him.. now I’m left fighting with myself.. cause I don’t see the person he described.. but he say he does see it.. idk what to do.. I ask myself if he sees me like that, why is he still around?? I do love that man.. in this whole conversation I didn’t say much because I knew it would be turned against me… for the most part I just stayed quiet.. he said we can talk about this some other day.. think about what we both said about each other ( again I didn’t say much) I really don’t know what to do… I know I’m being stupid for even considering to be with him.. any advice.. mind u he is not my daughters biological father.. we started dating when I was 5 month’s pregnant, he’s been around since then.. it’s been a yr. Thank you in advance for support and please no judgment, i do all that on my own already.. kick myself in the ass..