How would you feel?

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My partner and I are okay with the usage of porn. I’m less okay about it and have some rules about it. I don’t want porn to replace me. I had an ex who preferred his own hand over me and he watched it daily. 
I have a higher sex drive than my fiancé. He has a very low sex drive so I end up initiating sex 95% of the time. 
I work full time, Monday to Friday. My partner is a stay at home dad to our 1 year old. I don’t care if he pleases himself during the week because I’m not around. 
But I was home! And he wanted! And I’m feeling heart broken that he chose porn over me. I cried because of it. I feel like I’m not good enough. Especially because I initiate every time. But the one time he’s horny, he chose his hand over me. 
How would you feel? Am I being crazy? Or is it okay to feel really hurt about this?

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Yeah that's not cool, yes porn and jacking off is a quick fix unlike sex where it takes more energy but when you're there he can make effort of initiating and having sex with you, he has plenty of time during the week to jack off.

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It sounds like he might have a hard time initiating and just being openly sexual with you. Instead of being hurt, communicate with him about it.

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I would feel hurt tbh

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I would feel hurt. Im similar with porn rules as you. My husband has the sex drive of a 15 yr old so he always wants it but if I am there and willing it would piss me off if he chose that over me.

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My feelings would be hurt too, especially if you're the one initiating most of the time and that was an opportunity for him to initiate for once.

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I would be hurt

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I would be hurt too cause you’re right there.

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