Am I wrong?

Hi- new here.

Last night after a shower my husband called me over to give him head. When I was trying to do it, he would NOT get hard like AT ALL! I tried for 5 minutes before giving up. He said his anxiety was up. I was understanding. Then he said he legs was numb, again, I was understanding. I said “it’s okay we don’t have to do anything.” He snapped at me saying “no it’s not okay. I need to get you off so you’ll be content and happy.” I’m just like what? It’s not even that serious. Like at all…..

Next thing I know he’s going off on me about how he doesn’t want to hear my shit tomorrow and how I’m going to bring it up and he doesn’t like that shit. I’m like I didn’t say anything. I was being supportive. He kept coming at me about it! I walked away crying because he just wouldn’t stop.

This morning things was okay. Then He mentioned something about I need to go shave my legs because he wants his woman to take care of herself not be a lazy bum with hairy legs….. i didn’t say anything! I let it go!

After a while I finally said something along the lines of “you did this last year when you was having an. Affair. If I find out this is happening again, I’m gone. I’m taking the kids and I’m leaving! I deserve so much better than that.” He got super upset saying I was threatening him and he wasn’t going to allow that. How he’s changed and is growing as a person. And how I’m wrong and I should be ashamed of myself for making him feel down due to a medical condition.

I wasn’t putting him down due to a medical condition…. He’s never been diagnosed with anything, so I have no idea what he’s even going off about. He eventually left for work and told me “if you’re going to be questioning me all the time I don’t want to be with you!!” Now I feel super insecure and down.