Do you feel it’s right to do something someone accused you of?

After a argument this morning my husband said “when you tell someone over and over again what you think they are doing, you push them into actually doing it, then you claim it’s wrong! My counter argument was “okay, so if you told me over and over again that you think I was cheating, then I finally did cheat because ya know it’s instilled into my head, that that’s okay? When is that ever okay? You have free will! You choose to do what you want to do, others can’t force you into it because they said something over and over again! The person must be willing and wanting to do that.” He disagrees with me.