Anxiety

IM HAVING ANXIETY ABOUT GIVING BIRTH this is my second baby and I’m super happy about it but goodness the thought of pushing another baby out is seriously upsetting me and I have been reading that it should be easier for the baby to come out but my first birthing experience was pretty wild although it was quick and my daughter was preemie by size because she came on her due date 5lb 6 oz the “ring of fire” as they call it was where I was in so much pain and my midwife was late so I have to give birth by myself . I did an at home water birth and will be doing one again but I feel like maybe because I didn’t have help it was so much more painful ?! Can anyone answer this for me ? I want to use coconut oil or something to help the baby come out with out so much pain 🤦🏽‍♀️