So I’m just venting a bit. Quick back story me and my ex share two kids, one 3 and one is 2. He has spent the last almost 3 years in and out of their lives. Show up for a couple months then disappear again like a broken record. Both kids have opted to call him his name instead of dad and I don’t push the issue, I have told him time and a time if he wants to be dad he needs to grow up and show up. And just because he helped make them doesn’t mean they owe him anything. Fast forward to now, I’m engaged to another man, he loves the kids and the kids love him, about 6 months ago my ex decided he needed more time with the kids after he found out I moved on… I told him he could start with showing up to the time he has now but no he wants them overnight (he has never had them more than 6hrs at a time and that happened for the first time in over a year over a month ago before he disappeared again)… I suggested more time with the kids during the day and practice by getting our daughter to take a nap (something she refuses to do with him). He said no, he still needs time to adjust to him but they are fine and don’t need anytime at all but he wants overnights. I have told him that the kids come home in distress and he says that when he said good bye they were fine … it’s like talking to a brick wall… we are in court over this and sadly right now my hands are tied with what I can and can’t do but I am trying the best I can to protect these kids. On top of that I have been fighting to get his name off the house but he’s refusing because it’s not how he wants it done. I have sent him the directions and paperwork twice but nopes… I’m just so frustrated and over dealing with him and it’s so sad because he wasn’t like this until the “navy made him cheat on me” 🙄 everything went downhill from there.