Can't wrap my head around it right now...

I need to get this out bc the person it involves can't be spoken to at the moment bc their head is in the toilet. My husband has been going through a lot of family issues since mid last year, and he started off the new year with finding out a cousin who he considered his younger brother passed away. As you can imagine all of that would make one emotional. The wake was today. Afterward his family was all getting together. He comes home stumbling and smelling like an actual bar. Maybe worse. He's slurring his words and is CLEARLY very drunk. All of this would have been fine if he did not drive home. I didn't want to blow up on him, so I told him I was stepping out (to cool down) and we would have a very serious discussion tomorrow. Of course he drunkenly asked about what. After resisting some I said I by no means want to make this about me, but I can not think of any reason he thought it would be a good idea to get behind the wheel as drunk as he was AND with a wife and 4 month old at home. After we went back and forth for a while he completely broke down in front of me bc, again, going through a lot. I haven't lost anyone who I've considered a sibling, but I can imagine it hurts immensely. I just don't think I would drive home drunk FROM A WAKE. Maybe I'm being selfish in my feelings. Maybe I'm not being considerate. Maybe I'm even just being a bitch. But the thought that the decisions he made after saying goodbye to his cousin could have resulted in me saying good bye to him is making me want to actually scream. Feel free to comment or not. Idc. It's just 12:30 am and I had to get this out.