I don’t look at relationships the same HELP!?

What do you do when you feel like you don’t look at relationships the same & they just don’t feel mentally, emotionally or physically good?

Because I remember growing up being happy to meet new people & try new things with someone. But now I feel like finding a relationship feels like a such game. Like playing chess what do I do?

Some guys make relationships feel so hard today, like is he a narc, or is he really nice ? Is this one mean or just guarded? Is a good man or a liar? I just can’t handle 🤦🏽‍♀️😨