Do people judge you?

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Hi all.
I got myself into some messy stuff. 
So I have a 5 year old boy who I love with all my heart. But I’m not with his dad anymore because he was financially irresponsible and wasn’t there for our son when he was a baby. He’s stepped a lot more now and we have a healthy coparenting relationship. 
But last year I met the love of my life. We were so in love and for a year we have been doing good. We’re engaged and even have made major fights but we were always able to resolve them. 
However, I found out I was pregnant in December. Currently I’m 11 weeks. We were both excited about this pregnancy as we made a miscarriage back in September of last year. But now he’s changed… he’s been physically abusive towards me. Leaving me with bruises all over, telling me “he’ll hit me in my bitch ass face”. He’s never been like this. Ever. But I’m not one to stick around and hope he gets better. It’s an every day thing. So he ended the relationship. Now I’m a single mom again. And I’ll have two kids from two different daddies… will I be judged for this? Is anyone else in my shoes?

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Anyone who judges you for leaving an abusive relationship isn’t worth caring about. Good for you for leaving.

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girl dont worry about what people will day, the important thing is that you got out this relationship and that you and your babies are safe. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Sending you hugs and prayers 🙏

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Yes, honestly, people will judge. It’s not their place or business though and if they actually knew your story they would judge the man, not you. Leaving an abusive situation is way more important than being afraid of judgement. Hang in there ❤️

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To be honest with you hun, ppl will always judge, everyone has right to their own opinion but it doesn’t mean you have to listen or even think what ppl say is right. I’m so sorry you have been through such an awful time. I have 3 kids by 3 different dads and I really don’t care what ppl think. Some ppl are very quick to judge a book by its cover. My first child I had when I was 17 her dad was 21 he has never even met her his choice I gave him
Loads of opportunities to meet her and he hasn’t we split before she was born. I met my second child’s dad a year after my 1st born and 3 years later we had a miscarriage was unplanned pregnancy but we decide after our loss we wanted a child together 6 months later fell pregnant with my second child we stayed together for a total of 7yrs but things didn’t work out. He has raised my 1st child and he still has contact with both the kiddies and we get on a lot better they are now 18yrs and 14yrs old. I have been with my current partner 5yrs and we have 3 yr old together and we are trying for another little one after having two losses last year. As you can see I didn’t just jump into relationships and pop kids out hun but I guarantee someone will read this and have some sort of negative opinion. All I can say is you should be so proud of yourself for getting out of that situation and your great mumma for it, as long as you and your kiddies are happy that’s all that matters 💕💕💕💕

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If people judge you for leaving an abusive partner they are the ones to be poorly jusged. I would say (by judging you lol) that your an awesome mom who prioritizes her children and knows her worth.

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Lots of people judge. Hell I judge lots of people(if I didnt then I'd have a TON of weirdos in my life, but my judgements makes it so I dont). That being said, I would never judge your situation. But really, who gives a crap what i think or anyone else for that matter. Its your life, live it!

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I know a few women in your shoes. I'm not one to judge but most people judge other's regardless what it's for. I'd judge if you were a bad mom like not taking care of your kids or having/doing drugs around children but I didn't read that. Just do right and you'll be good.

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Anyone that judges you for choosing a better life for yourself and your children can kick rocks. They don’t know what it’s like to be abused and you are a rockstar if you walk away from it! I stayed in an abusive relationship for too long because I didn’t want to be judged.

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I mean. Ima be honest some will. The main thing is people feeling like single moms not giving a relationship enough time to see a person’s true colors. 2-3 years seems more reasonable of being with someone and having time to examine them before procreating. Not that that even gtds the person will be a good parent  or match.

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People will judge you always. You know why you left even if it just didnt work out, you cannot stay because of what people will say. Dont worry about them and take care of your self and your beautiful babies.

Do people judge you?

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