Boring sex life…

Ladies, this is somewhat of a long story but I’ll try to keep it short and to the point.

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. In the beginning our sex life was great- a little vanilla but still good. We did it as much as possible, multiple times a day. Once I got pregnant, that all changed. I understand that life happens, we are busy with a 6 month old. Completely understandable that we are both tired by the end of the day and not always in the mood. Quantity is not my issue. It’s the quality.

When we do have sex, it’s always the same exact thing. I get zero foreplay- him on top, a little bit of kissing until he gets hard and that’s it. A majority of the time I’m unable to finish and he’s either unaware or doesn’t care.

I’ve become extremely frustrated with it- to the point I don’t even want to do it anymore. I have constantly tried to communicate things I want and need. I ask for oral sex, don’t get it. I asked to be fingered, I don’t get it. I ask for foreplay, don’t get it. I’ve asked why he’s unable to do these things. If there’s an issue or reason he doesn’t want to. He says there’s no issue. I’ve wondered if there’s something wrong with my body. When he first started dating, he told me going down on women was one of his favorite things to do.

He loves receiving oral sex, it’s probably his favorite thing. I stopped doing it for a long time. If he’s unable to give me anything I want or ask for, why should he get what he wants? That accomplished nothing. If anything it made things worse. So, I’ve started occasionally giving him oral again.

I’m just at my wits end! I have no idea what to do to remedy the situation. We love each other and are happy together- raising our son. But sexually- I am completely unsatisfied. I could scream I’m so frustrated.