My husband is threatened that I am going to start counseling…

He says that I should not do it, that I will “counsel myself out of the marriage” and that the “only counselor I need is God.”

Back story he has spent the majority of our marriage drinking too much and being emotionally abusive. He has stopped drinking for 7 months and goes to AA on occasion but I have a lot of built up resentment and feel I need individual counseling to help with my resentment and codependency issues. I told him I did not need a counselor to tell me to go or stay and I was ultimately doing this so I can be a better person for me and for our marriage.

I think the fact that he doesn’t want me to go to counseling is a red flag and that if he loved me he would be happy and supportive that I’m taking this step.

Thoughts?