Mother in law

Today my husband told me he wanted to visit back home. We left home because we wanted a new start and most importantly to get away from my family. For me it was to also get away from his mother and sister. I don’t speak to my family right now only my brother. So we wouldn’t have anywhere to go other than his dads or moms. He isn’t close to his dad but his dad is honestly a good person. His mothers perception of his dad has strained him and his father’s relationship. He sees his dad in the same view as his mother. He wants to go stay with his mom. Now when he mentioned this I was in class…soon as he mentioned us staying with his mom I got uncomfortable…nauseous and just feeling like I REALLY didn’t want to go. It will be beyond awkward for me. Since I met her she has literally had very little good things to say about me. She is manipulative and encouraged him to not be with me before she even knew me well enough. She directly also encouraged divorce plenty of times to me as well. We got passed all that kind of and she kinda just apologized that I felt the way I felt when I tried to get rid of the tension. To me that wasn’t a real apology. She does things just for show to stroke his ego as if she cares about me but rarely texts me even though I’m pregnant with his first child. So I told him about it and he talked to her now she texts me and it’s awkward. Like we won’t be having a conversation at all and she will just say good night 🥰🥰🥰…she does that for him…if she really cared she would maybe ask how I’m feeling or something you know like NORMAL PEOPLE…her daughter barely speaks to my husband and in short is actually worse than the mom…energy rubs off on me and being around them is like me slowly bleeding out and feeling so out of place…like she is “nice” but it’s that manipulative nice type of deal…like I’m sure she doesn’t give a hoot…but she knows my husband would never tolerate how she really feels…she ruined my husband as well it’s been a very long time coming but he wanted to change learn how to feel things and learn what it means to really love someone…he has been able to do all of that with therapy and the help of praying etc. but everything I’ve went thru with his emotions is because of her. She neglected him never accepted any love from him and told him repeatedly that she didn’t like hugs or needed him to help her etc. the way she taught him to “love” was non existent…so he always deemed any loving gestures or interactions as too much until he was actually ready to change…lately I’ve come to terms that I have a serious issue with his mother. I’m stuck picking up all these pieces when things hit the fan with my hubby. I’m stuck feeling neglected…and while I’m so neglected at times I’m also stuck walking on eggshells…and to top all that off I have to play counselor when he gets like that so I have to ignore all the pain he caused and help him thru his…it was so exhausting but we have finally made it to a great point in our life…I’m sorry for ranting but I just honestly don’t want to be around someone who is 10x worse than my husband once was…all I want to do is cry like a baby right now…it’s so traumatizing being around her and I have met plenty of screwed up people but this whole family (all 4 of her kids) are really different from anything I had ever encountered…I don’t know how to cope with any of them…I barely stuck it out with her son…