What would you do???

First let me apologize as this is a long post. But it’s pertaining my 10year old child and I’m not sure what to do. ANY advice would be appreciated. Thank you!

So here’s the back story….

So my daughter is in the fourth grade. She has been to a new school since the end of last year and all of this year. We moved to a different state closer to family. Anyways, she now attends a predominately white school. Well since she’s been at this school, she has been attacked by other students. She had 1 incident last year and now this year she’s now had 4. So last year she wore her hair in Bantu knots and a little boy told her she looks like a burnt chicken nugget and proceeded to taunt her with it. I contacted the teacher who said “I don’t go out to the playground with them as I have other things to do.” This made me feel some type of way but since it was the end of the school year I did not act on it. Then when school finally ends I catch my daughter watching gay porn ( a little boy in her 3rd grade class told her about it) and also on onlyfans (not sure what she saw, but I know she had an account and was told about this by a little girl). I explained to her why these things were inappropriate and told her to next time ask me or her dad and we’ll explain what the thing is and let her know if she’s of age for it. Haven’t had an issue since.

Well now in 4th grade we started off the year letting her know the 2 children who told her about pornhub and only fans are off limits and we explained it to the teacher (we also told her of the incident with the name calling) as the little girl was in her class again. So the teacher has been keeping the children separate in class, no issue. Well before Christmas break my daughter was playing with 2 little boys who were talking about shooting up the school. All three children got suspended and we explained to her that these kinds of things are 1. Not a game and to be played around with, and 2. These types of conversations are NOT appropriate for school. We also discussed with her what was happening in the world, as far as children actually shooting up schools, and the dangers of it. So we finally get back to school after the break and one of the little boys that got suspended with her has decided to start harassing multiple children. I can only protect mine, so when I found out he slapped my daughter I went up to the school to speak to the teacher to find out what actions were being taken. Not only did he slap her but on a different day he also pulled her chair from under her as she was about to sit to eat lunch. I also asked what was being done for that situation as well. The little boy did end up apologizing and writing her a letter saying he was sorry. We explained to her that time that maybe he was bothering her because he actually wanted to be her friend. Told her to try befriending him and including instead of doing as all the other kids. Well it worked and her and the little boy are now friends.

Well now we come to what I need help with. Thursday I get a call from the assistant principal telling me not to worry my daughter is fine, but there was an incident that happened. She than went on to tell me that 3 little girls were chasing her around the playground to tell her that they no longer wanted to be her friend. Well my daughter said okay, and attempted to walk away. As she went to walk away, this little boy that was with the 3 little girls decided to take a stick he had in his hand and swing it around my daughters neck and choke her. My daughter freaked out, broke free and ran to an adult. She told me that they had the nurse check her and everything was fine. I listened asked which little boy it was and how it was being handled. She couldn’t tell me which boy, but told me my daughter could tell me. We hang up and I sit on it for a few minutes and than decide that I don’t feel as thought my child is safe at this school and go to pull her out for the day. I tell them I’m not sure when she will be back and request a work packet to help her with at home. This turns into us sitting down and having a talk with the assistant principal, principal, and her teacher. I tell them I don’t feel she’s safe they tell me the little boy got suspended but they’re trying to figure out what to do with the girls. They than say they can keep my child safe at school and instead of her having recess she will be able to volunteer in her younger sisters class or stay in her class with her teacher. I was not okay with my child being punished when she did nothing wrong. I told them I will think about it. Well when school ends that day, my daughter starts getting FT calls from the 3 little girls. Than one of them calls her 3 times in a row, because I answered they hung right up. They called her for about 1/2 an hour. Then finally stopped. The next day I told the assistant principal about the harassment calls. She said she’ll figure it out and was able to get ahold of 2 of the little girls parents but not the main little girl.

So I tell my husband what’s going on and he wants to go to the police and make a report and have a restraining order put in place. He would also like to have all the children involved be expelled from the district. I personally think that’s a bit extreme. So I wanted to see how other people would handle this situation. Please ANY advice will be appreciated TIA.

Also not sure if race plays any part in it, but if it does here they are:

School faculty: Caucasian

Little boy: mixed, black and white

Little girls: Caucasian

My child: black