Would my relationship ever work? UPDATED

I am getting back with my ex, we are in a sexual relationship and trying for another baby although we live apart at present. He tells me I am the love of his life and he shows me in every way. We already have a child together. However, we broke up as he cheated and fathered a child with another female. He says the child was conceived whilst we weren't together. Although this is true the child is similar in age to mine and he was living with this female until a few months ago when they broke up. He says he left her because he wanted me and she was jealous of me. My concern is he will spend a day a week seeing his other children. He says he can not bring the children to our apartment as the momma would not agree and he says he will not go against her and their contact agreement is what works best for the children. Would my relationship work with this factor or should I force him to bring the children to us? He doesn't want to do this though. He assures me he has no feelings for her and I believe him but how likely is the past to repeat itself with a known cheater? Do they ever change, really?

To answer a few Qs asked

*No he doesn't stay overnight. Just goes for the day.

*I do trust him. He doesn't care for the baby momma at all and I know he'd not do it again. She's a toxic person and he isn't. It was his moment of weakness. He is better now.

*It isn't forcing another person's child to my residence, it's having respect for me and my relationship.

*why can we not have another child? We have discussed it for months now and he wants another with me.

*his other children were conceived when we were on breaks so technically it isn't cheating is it? He spoke to her and they may have slept together but he didn't get her pregnant the 2 times until we were on breaks, so it's not cheating per-se is it?

*do ya'll really think this wouldn't work? I am not unsure or wavering on my commitment to him, just wondering what's others' opinions.

For more Qs asked

*he has proposed but not set a date yet as he says he has to sort himself out but probably in a year or so.

*and Racheal you are rude. I didn't say anyone OWES me their children. In such a situation where there is a step-parent or would-be-step-parent he shouldn't be going to her place for visitation. She can't keep the children from me forever. What logic have you got in that? If your man had other children would you be happy to never see them and he goes to the female's place alone every week? And if you can't mind your language and be polite go comment elsewhere.

*and just so you are all aware I have known this guy for over a decade and have broken up twice for a short period of time each time.

To ask a Q myself

*Okay thank you all. So my next Q falls like this. If I take your advice, which I will otherwise I wouldn't have asked. And get him to really prove himself, marry first live together then have another child, how unlikely is the past to repeat itself?

*Every relationship has ups and downs, we will too, but how likely is he to keep running to other females if he has done so in the past? Could it actually work out? He won't do counselling, says that's unneeded.

*He says to trust him and not interfere with his other children as he is the dad and knows best. Happy to do so as I have my own child to focus on but would any of you trust a man like this?

*and are any of you in NYC and know where I can go to draw up a pre-nup?

---> @briabella and @lisa I hear ya'll. I truly do. I love this man. He was my first everything since high school. On our last break I was just waiting and waiting for him to leave her and come back. He has 2 children with this woman. One from 2012 when we broke up for 2 years, and one in 2018 as did I when we broke up for 2 years again but spoke daily and rekindled when our child was just a few weeks old. Rest of the time we've been together and living together except now but we are deciding when he moves here. He has always provided when we were together before. We halved everything. He always has a job. He provides for our child. He is a good dad. He said he doesn't provide for the others because the woman spends it on herself. To be honest I don't get involved in their drama. She claims he's a bad dad and won't give him full access but I don't see him as a bad dad at all. He says he has to do as she says or he can't see his children. He won't take her to court because he says it's not good for the children. He goes to see them I don't get involved. They are not my children I have my own child to care for. He does not like the woman as she is toxic. She says rancid things to him and me. She isn't someone I want to ever deal with so we couldn't blend these families. She did try when they were together but I didn't allow her access to my child. I guess she is doing the same back. He proposed but says wait for him to sort himself out financially before we marry. He will marry me I know he will he always says and makes me feel like I'm the only one. Please tell me this will work.

I'M SO HAPPY. HE MOVED IN ON THURSDAY. PROPOSED ON SATURDAY AND TODAY I FOUND OUT WE'RE EXPECTING OUR 2ND. ALL MY CHRISTMASES HAVE COME AT ONCE.