Is it postpartum depression?

Question

My son is 5 weeks now, and I feel like I'm getting no help. My husband works long hours and 6 days a week, but when he is home he's playing video games and drinking rather then helping me. When I finally lash out on him he asks if I want to go back to work and him to stay home, and that makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. I don't know why I thought things would change, I pickbup after his messes, do his laundry, wash his dishes pickup his beer cans around the house. But that's how it's always been. My son wakes up about 4 to 5 times a night, I'm not getting enough sleep, and during the day when I do get a chance to nap with him I feel like I can't because there is so much to get done. 
I feel like I don't even have the time to write this post because my son just went down for the 5th time tonight, I have 2 appointments today, I need to pump (which I haven't been producing enough to keep him fed). Formula has been making him fussy, gassy, constipated, but he needs to eat something. I've been taking 3 kinds of supplements to help with milk production, which helps but finding the time to actually pump when he sleeps for 5 mins at a time is hard to do. I feel like I have to ask my husband to watch his own child when I have to take a shower, go grocery shopping, etc. 
I'm starving, irritated, exhausted, feel like I'm taking care of 2 babies. 
I don't have enough time to go on, but would you say this is postpartum depression, or just being a mom for the first time?

Answer

It could be PPD. 
My husband is the same way. He is an excellent provider and father. He is messy like the kids though. When I don't have sleep, I can't function. I explained to him that I NEED sleep. I told him he leaves messes like the kids do.  He now tries to pick up a little in the morning. 
Don't worry about the house so much. It'll be there when you get to it. You have to take care of yourself too. You can't pour from a glass that is empty!

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I think you need to speak to your man.  He needs to grow up and lend a hand.  It does not matter if he is tired from work he has useless nipples so doesn't really get a say.  It won't be forever just the first few months. Things will settle down again.  In the meantime reach out to whomever you can to give a helping hand.  Asking for help shows your strength 💪

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I would have a conversation with him, calmly sit him down and explain to him that no you don’t want to go to work and him stay home but you need a partner that will help around the house and with the baby because you are overwhelmed trying to keep up with everything. You need a partner not a second child. I’m not saying you can’t possibly have post partum depression but it definitely sounds like you need help and support more than anything, taking care of an infant is a lot, especially if you are exclusively pumping which it seems like you might be, and having to take care of an overgrown man child on top of that with no support or help. If you are concerned about post partum depression definitely reach out to your OB and discuss your concerns with them.

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Sit down with him and tell him this, or in all honesty, just show him this post. He needs to be helping you right now. You had a baby 5 weeks ago and YOU need to be resting with the baby as much as you can. Your stressing out is probably why you are producing less milk too. As you are so busy it must be hard to stay hydrated and eat, which also can affect milk supply. With my first I had this problem but my husband tried to help me as much as he could. And I ended up having to stop breastfeeding even though my son threw up formula like crazy. Is there any family that could come to help you right now so you can catch a good few naps in with baby and help you wash bottles? Nonetheless talk to your husband seriously. He needs to help you when he gets home. When my husband would get home from work the first thing I would do was “here is the baby”. It is very tyiring.

Is it postpartum depression?

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