Daughters 18th Birthday

My daughter's 18th birthday is coming up soon. I work in retail so I took the weekend off months ago because, well it's her birthday and 18th also! She mentioned she just wanted to have a few friends over and to go somewhere and hang out(completely fine with me, she's 18) I told her I took the weekend off because I assumed she wanted people over etc and I didn't want to have to work around that. I told her we could do that, I can drop you off wherever, me and your brother (young) will go out and about and You can just let me know when you're done. She near had a fit that I was taking her brother somewhere on her birthday 🤔 I didn't understand it because she did not want to do anything with us at home. I was planning on doing something with family too, but she didn't want that. So I just suggested we do a cake at home after friend stuff, give her her present, and then her and I could do something the next day when everyone was not here anymore. Again she said that was fine. As of recently she hasn't been very respectful to me(I'm assuming her age, but she also has a new friend.. And her personality has not been the same) My transmission went in my car about a week and a half ago(never a good time, but really) It's been a rough month. Last week she told me how much she hates me(teenagers? 😩🤔) But she went on to call me an a**hole and to get the f* away from her, it was not good. I did take something away from her for speaking to me that way....

I am still trying to plan something just small, it's her birthday after all, I mentioned that if she was going to have friends over I was just going to get pizza from my work because with a lot of kids to feed (And now I have to get a new car) It's cheaper. She told me that that pizza is kind of disgusting. (It's really not! Lol) I said well okay I can only do what I can do.

I mentioned the thing again that we were supposed to go do the day after everyone has left and she said it sounds kind of stupid "I don't really want to do that anymore"

I'm not sure if I'm being a jerk? I know she wants her independence etc but I feel like she should be respectful towards me and just grateful for what I can give at this time. 😔 She didn't ask me to take the weekend off, That was my own doing but now I'm kind of thinking that I shouldn't have.. Because I only get so many hours of vacation.

Thank you for advice in advance. Single parenting two teenagers 🤦 Please be kind, but please be honest! I'm not sure if I'm being overbearing or if she's being a little entitled. Thank you.

Thank you. Still not seeing anything in anyone else's perspective so I'm stepping back at this point.

Cannot be an "adult" and a child at the same time.

Discouraged but at least seeing clear at this point.