Advice for dealing with husband?

I have a lovely 3 month old who is generally an easy and calm baby. Love her. But the unemployed hubs makes life difficult in every way possible. I'll just list out the issues and let me know if I'm the asshole.

With his 2 years of unemployed life, he spends it ignoring me (and now baby) and instead reads, researches, and writes all day

Guess who gets to hear him talk about HIS readings and never gets asked about how iam doing or my day or baby. Any conversation is about his $hit. If I try to start a Convo about my or baby's needs, it goes nowhere.

Despite my request for him to change his bed/wake schedule, he still goes to bed around 2am and maybe wakes up by 11am. Which will wake me or baby up, and is an absolute waste of a morning.

He never cleans up after himself

He never does dishes, and if he does it is rarely with soap and/or hot water. Also, crap is left on pretty much every dish and utensil so I get to rewash everything.

He told me he would take over washing dishes if I would change baby's diapers. Dishes were left in the sink for 2 months after baby was born. I had enough and washed them every time since then.

I am the one to do any laundry. He also won't put his laundry in the hamper, I get to find it and do all the work.

I'd he ever does clean, it is only because someone if coming to visit, never because I asked for help.

He is constantly undermining my need to nurse baby. I'm trying to make sure I have a solid supply established for her and he is pushing a bottle whenever she cries. And you can bet he washes her bottles the way he does all the other dishes--soap and hot water optional. Another reason I don't want him giving bottles.

He won't even try to diagnose why she's upset.

There's no support for breastfeeding, he won't make sure I'm hydrated, fed, comfortable, nothing. And if we're struggling with a latch issue or frustration, he pushes a bottle at the problem.

I'd like to ebf, but weight gain is an issue so I'm supplementing with formula a bit- but only after I've nursed her of if I can't feed her at that moment.

I'm a church pianist so I can't be with my baby a few times a week. He doesn't care about her having a routine at all, doesn't know she has a feeding schedule or sleeping schedule. So who knows if she is eating or sleeping during that time

He also can't cook and won't learn. If I get food from him, it's fast food, and only because he was hungry in the first place. If I say I'm hungry I get to wait until he is hungry before he'll help with food

He is knowingly ignorant to her night time routine and won't try to learn it. It's an important time to start establishing one, but he doesn't care.

We're almost out of disposable diapers and I'd like them to be for going out of the house only so we can save money, while using cloth diapers at home, and he will exclusively use disposables because he "doesn't know how to do the cloth ones". Despite me offering to show him and showing him a number of times. Great support there too

Haha I almost forgot one of the best ones. Literally within the first month postpartum, he's talking about me losing weight, getting skinny, and that I'm eating too much. Wtf.

Also got no help with my pain and suffering at the start of postpartum.

Idk, there's probably loads more, but I'm lucky if you're still here. Thanks if you are and any advice you can give would be great. Feel free to let me know if I'm the a-hole