First off, a little back story. After giving birth to my first, I really struggled with breastfeeding as he was in the NICU for a few weeks. He had tongue tie and had also become comfortable drinking from a bottle so instead of forcing him to latch on, I decided that I would express or pump and bottle feed for the time being. Unfortunately, I was never able to breastfeed him, trying to get him to drink from my breast became very stressful for the both of us so I continued giving him breast milk in a bottle.

After this experience, I made a promise to myself that when I have our next child, I would like to breastfeed exclusively.

Our daughter is now 7 months and apparently supposed to start daycare. I used the word ‘apparently’ because this is a decision my husband has come to after conversations with his mother and not me. Additionally, upon her advice, he has stated that she is now going to have formula while at daycare so she will be calmer and less dependent on me because he either can’t rely on me to pump or doesn’t want me to sit around pumping milk for hours.

I am livid. I decided to take a step back from this discussion as I really didn’t want to say things that I would regret later but I am having a hard time digesting this.