Toxic mother in law

My husband needs to open his eyes to his mom! I feel like it’s already late though. She gets everything handed to her by her kids. And have the nerve to tell my husband, “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out” (my husband told me she said that)

I would confront her about everything but language barrier.

She’s awful! My husband buys her everything. She’s living rent free. The other day they had to renew their passports and she told my husband (16 he trip) they were going to take the full trip and then come back… with my 4 yr old in the car.

Who does that? She’s so selfish and the only one she cares about is herself and money. Thank God they didn’t take the full trip!

I feel like if someone is offering to take you somewhere, use their gas and pay for your passport you shouldn’t have a say when they bring you back?? Right?

When will my husband open his eyes to see how manipulative and selfish she is??

He thinks he has to listen to her still like a scared kid. We have three kids and he goes to her about every little thing. ‘Oops mom said no’… (he doesn’t really say that but I feel like he thinks that)

Like supposedly she still spanks her kids… she has 4.. ages 22-30

ETA- she constantly calls and messages him 25/8

He could be on the phone with me and suddenly be like he has to go..

The house that we own is going to be Hers in the future, not our kids (what my husband said)

Our land, she’s going to plant stuff on it and get big money

We just got chickens and I’m not even sure if they are ours 🥺 because I remember him saying she was going to get chickens with her grandkids and collect eggs and get money

Everything benefits her… I don’t understand 😭

Like this is ruining our marriage. I told him but he’d rather get a divorce then lose his mom. He thinks I’m the one that’s insane

I also don’t feel like my kids are mine. I love them more than anything! I just feel like she’s getting in my head… I use to dress my boys so nice in jeans but my husband all of a sudden says, “they are too uncomfortable in those, just let them wear sweats” I use to take them everywhere… “you’re spending too much money” I use to cook all the time… “just make them eggs or soup, they like that better” and the complain how I sleep in all the time (he basically makes it impossible for us to go to bed and says 2am is perfect for us) and never cook…

I just don’t understand life… I don’t understand this life. How can I be a better mom when I have to deal with this? I hope my kids see how their abuela is one day because she doesn’t care.

Gosh.. when she watches them (she doesn’t anymore because she got mad at me for saying something about her not being able to hit them) —- at her house she leaves out poison, knifes and machete , literally on the ground where they can reach it and then my husband gets mad I don’t want my kids over… he also gets mad that I want boundaries and restrictions. He doesn’t understand because he was raised to worship the ground she walks on I guess.

She brought him into this world but I brought three of his children into the world——