Anyone who has a husband with Asperger’s?

My husband has just been diagnosed with Asperger’s and I need some support. How do you cope or manage in your relationship with someone who is (seemingly) an emotional void that disregards your feelings??? I feel invisible. I don’t want to tell someone how and when to love me. I just gave birth to our second child 10 weeks ago, and I feel so emotionally and physically vulnerable, but he doesn’t understand. I have PTSD from birth. My birth was lovely, but the doctor was horrible and didn’t give me stitches when I needed them, and now I have a very different looking vagina. He doesn’t understand how I don’t want sex when I’m still trying to heal and adjust to my new body, while caring for a newborn and toddler. I don’t know what I’m trying to accomplish with this post, I just feel like I need support.