Unhelpful husband after csection

I had to have an emergency c section last Sunday. I was in the hospital for 4 days due to some complications and was told to go home on bed rest.

My dad had flown in from out of the country to watch my other kids while I was in labor. The day after we got home from the hospital my dad had to leave (we weren’t anticipating such a long hospital stay). Our first whole day home with the newborn my husband got mad at me because I asked him to wake up to get our other kids ready for school (he slept all night and didn’t help with the newborn so I was irritated and asked him to get up with a tone). This pissed him off so bad that he told me he was filing for divorce and leaving me. That he behave nothing in common and he’s been wanting a divorce for a while and he was just waiting for my dad to leave to tell me. He left all day and to “start looking for another place to live.” This behavior was completely out of the blue. He left me at home with 4 kids to take care of alone (we have three year old triplets also) days after a csection. I was distraught. I have nobody close by to help me at all.

He eventually came back and acted like nothing happened and I embarrassingly let him because I had no one else to help me and I was in so much pain.

Since that day he has done things that he says are “helpful” but just aren’t. I’m an incredibly tidy person and I can’t stand mess. Since he’s been home he’s pulled out 5 closets in our home to “clean” them and has left piles of stuff everywhere. He refuses to put things back where he found them because we need to go through everything and decide what we want to keep. When I asked him when he’s planning to finish what he started he told me he was waiting for me to heal so I could help him go through it all. So until then it’s going to sit there. I’m irate. The clutter everywhere is making my skin crawl but I’m physically incapable of fixing it myself or even with his help (which I know will be non existent). I feel like I can’t relax with my newborn because it’s all I can focus on. I feel like he did it to spite me because he knows how much I can’t stand it.

Tonight after I laid my newborn down in her nursery, I came out into the living room and found him asleep on the couch at 5pm (he sleeps all night and doesn’t get up with the newborn at all) and the kids had trashed the living room. I got their bath routine and bedtime done on my own (which was incredibly painful for me) and he woke up, saw me doing it and went back to sleep. I then came out and cleaned the living room because I refuse to live in filth. He just watched me again, while I winced in pain, and went back to sleep on the couch where he currently is now. He preemptively and very excitedly took the next 2 weeks off work (for 60% of his pay) to “help me” and I feel like it’s absolutely useless. He isn’t helping. He’s sleeping out of spite because he told me earlier he wanted to go out with his friends tonight and I told him I needed him here with me to help me so he went to sleep on the couch instead.

I have no idea what to do. I feel so stuck because I’m recovering still but also have nowhere to go. What would you do?