Divorcing (long but need advice)

After 12 years together 7 years married and just had our 3rd child in February, we are calling it quits. I’m honestly lost. I am a stay at home mom. My husband has always promised me that he would do his part financially in supporting not only his kids but me as well if we were to separate. So he is moving in with his parents so their won’t be any extra bills added with him leaving.

But I still don’t know what to do with myself now. I’m at home all day every day. Him and his family don’t trust any one else to watch the kids. That’s why I had to quit my job to stay home when my in laws got sick. But now they are still not back to 100% and I’m expected to move on?!

How!? I’m in a SMALL town where I don’t know to many ppl. I’m 6+ hrs away from home. My husband is in law enforcement my in laws know EVERYONE. So even if I were to start dating some one here or even talking to someone they will find out before I’m ready for them to find out. And even still the only friends I really have are his friends or his friends wives. How do I make new friends or connections without them having a connection back to him while staying home all day?

I’m not willing to move away with or without my kids. My mom ran away from my dad when they separated and my relationship with my dad suffered because of it. I am willing for things to be awkward for awhile to better my kids. But …. Idk. HELP!!