Am I in the wrong or him

I have pure OCD. I struggle a lot with intrusive thoughts. The past two years it's been about my husband secretly being a horrible person. (Yes I know this is horrible).

I often ask for assurance that he isn't this person. I've previously accused him of lots of horrible things with no proof but my brain telling me it's true.

Today he was playing with our pet and dog jumped on his head very roughly and he pushed dog off (I didn't see it) and dog let out a cry.

I accused him of hurting the pet on purpose.

He said "every time you have an accusation like this it makes me loathe you a little more."

Stunned, I left him alone.

Then I came back and tried to talk to him and tell him my thoughts are separate from me and it's hard living inside my head.

He said it's hard being my partner and I need to stop "bitching" and "just be quiet sometimes".

We now aren't speaking. He took the day off work because I have chronic pain flare ups to help clean the house and he is just laying in bed and ignoring me now.

I feel like I need him to be more understanding and he feels like I need to "fix" it and stop accusing him without proof.