Is he being manipulative or am I just crazy

I honestly don’t even know where to begin with this post because I’m just so confused and nobody in my life will understand what I’m trying to talk about and it’s also gonna be hard for me to explain every little detail to you to get the full story but I really just need to talk and to see if somebody can give me some kind of insight.

I started seeing this guy that I’ve known for a very long time but only known him in passing. We started seeing each other in September 2021 and it was very friendly until we started making out and then we grew closer but we never went out on a date and I told him that that is really important to me that I would like to go out and he also said that he wants to go out but his excuses he doesn’t have any money but he works full-time plus overtime.

He also refuses to establish a relationship with me as in like we’re boyfriend girlfriend I just want to know what we are to each other and he just doesn’t really say anything. And we do fight a lot mainly for those two things because he isn’t taking the other day and he’s not establishing what we already each other that’s our two main fights.

And recently we got into a prehuge fight and called it quits and he basically said just give me time and space to you know see if I miss you and see how I feel so I was like okay and give him time and space.

In between the no space type of thing we did text a little bit now I talked a lot about like trying to go out do things with him and he was just like OK yes well see and stuff

And Friday night he had text me said he miss me I was like oh OK and I just kind of like blew it off a little because I didn’t want to catch feelings again. Nothing really came of it and then yesterday we text a little bit and that’s where I completely lost everything I already lost all my feelings I lost everything I’m just feeling so utterly defeated it just seems like he’s trying to completely destroy my emotions he seems like he’s fucking with me at this point.

So basically what had happened yesterday is saying he does miss me and he wants to see me but he’s not going to see me and he just seems really coldhearted and very manipulative Cuz he saying one thing but then in the same breath he sang the complete opposite and it just feels like he’s trying to upset me and make me feel bad.

You know how you can change the backgrounds on messenger while our background was pink hearts for like months and yesterday he changed it to ice and I didn’t acknowledge it because I feel like he definitely was trying to get a rise out of me but that kinda made me no overthink.

And I like texting like you don’t even do simple things for me when I say stuff like that it’s because I have told him multiple times what I want from relationship and what would make me feel good and it’s really just the simplest of things and he still won’t do them.

All I ever asked of him was to like text me good morning good night sometimes take me out on dates and if you don’t have the money try to plan something romantic at home you don’t even have to buy anything to do something at home just put some type of effort in that’s all I’ve ever asked of him