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My boyfriend is going to punish me for something I did wrong not specifying and wants to try anal which to be fair I was wrong and totally deserve it we are definitely into BDSM I'm a bottom he's top and he's very dominate and wants to do anal as my punishment. How should I prepare bc ngl I'm. Scared.

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If you don't want to do anal then why let him try it? I personally don't get the sexual appeal of allowing someone to control your body but to each his own 
All I know is I refuse to let someone do something to me that I don't want

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Are y’all actually into BDSM or just like 50 shades of gray lol??? I know forced anal is a punishment many kink friendly couples use but as a dom he /needs/ to know how. Don’t let him just stick it in dry - you’ll probably tear and bleed which isn’t fun for anyone - punishment or not. Use lube, fingers and toys. Don’t let him be a shitty dom.

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If you say no and don’t wanna do it then don’t do it... you can be “ punished” in other ways that’s you In joy. I don’t really understand but it’s y’all relationship￼, me personally I don’t in joy it.

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Anal should not be a punishment. That is not the way to go about it and also it’s quite concerning that he is into forcing you to do something you don’t want to. Kinks are fine and I know plenty of dom and sub people but forced intercourse or anal is literally rape or “rape play”. You need to prep for anal

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I’ve done anal so many times and i still get scared everytime 😂 just try to be relaxed and have him start slow, use lots of lube and have him insert his finger (or you can even do this yourself right before being with him)  it helps relax the muscles down there. if you have a butt plug i would recommend using it after trying the fingers it makes it a whole lot easier for when he goes in

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Lots of Lube and don’t tense up. Lay down towels in case shit comes out so you don’t get it on the bed or do it somewhere that’s easy to clean up like the bathroom floor

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I think it comes down to how much you trust your partner. If my husband and I were going to do a scene like this I’d need to know he was going to take my comfort very much into account. For instance, it’s a punishment but the fact you’re willing to even consent to anal when you don’t like it may be punishment enough BUT if he wants to use the pain it can cause as the punishment, I would personally be asking questions beforehand… Anal is way different than vaginal (I personally enjoy anal) but it HAS to be done right. Once in the 20 years I’ve been with my husband we decided to go without lube and I was bleeding…it was incredibly painful, and he obviously stopped before I signaled for him to…he said he could tell there was no way I was enjoying it. Lesson learned lol If you want to consent to it, go for it, but dom or not…I would need to know the details and intentions.

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I do anal a lot. For me I personally like it. It really depends on the Person, I’m not nervous at all so I’m really relaxed. But it’s hard to relax if your not really into it or your are really nervous. Being aroused also helps. I’d recommend laying on your stomach. And it’s a team effort. So make sure you tell him what feels good and when to not push to hard, or go to fast. So help him find your butthole, and let him slowly rub his penis on the outside of your butthole and see how you feel when you think your calm enough, slowly, not fast allow him to slightly start applying pressure don’t put the whole tip in. Because you will rip or it could potentially hurt you and might tense back up. And however long you want let him just apply pressure inside your butthole with his penis. And that also helps with opening your butthole. When your ready allow him to push just a little bit more, and same thing just keep applying a little bit of pressure but he needs to be doing it in a thrust motion but while applying that pressure and keeping a steady pace and not applying to much pressure. Basically want to keep doing that until it’s all the way in and for your first time it’s up to you, you can go easy or hard. I personally like it a little more on the rough side. Anal Also gives me orgasms when it’s rougher.

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Guys I have cnc kink so it's fine I'm consenting to it and I was joking about being scared lmaoo

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