How long does it take the heart to heal?

Question

I've been single for 13 months. Before that I was in a relationship for 8 years which had more bad times than good so I don't know why I feel so sad still. I have periods of time where I feel great and life is good, but then I get pulled back and the cycle of sadness starts all over again. Right now I'm going through a tough time and I just want to be completely over him, we have a child together as well and we do get on really well, but sadly he did leave me for another woman and is now starting a family with her. I've started therapy to help me but I just don't want to feel sad over this anymore, it's been long enough. Surely I should be over him by now.

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8 years is a long time to be with someone, it's totally understandable to feel sadness at losing that person. But he left you for another woman - and it sounds like he has wasted no time moving on from you. Know that you deserved better, and you deserve to be with someone who loves you and wants to be with you.

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Phycologist have proved it can take 6 months for every year you was with someone to get over them so if that's true it could take years to full heal 🤦🏻‍♀️ you will get there one day. It's normal to still love and think of an ex

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My ex and I were separated for months before we divorced. We’ve been divorced about 3 years and he’s getting remarried in a few months. I still have moments of weakness when I miss him. Together 14 years, married nearly 10, 4 kids, and a LOT of history… that’s hard to throw away. 
The truth is that everyone’s healing journey is different. After an 8-year relationship, one person could heal in a few months while another might take a few years. Just acknowledge your pain and allow yourself to grieve. Take it one day at a time, and one day it won’t hurt anymore. 
♥️♥️

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I’m basically in the same situation. 10 years of marriage, 3 kids together, he left and found someone right away (might have even been before we split, who knows), single 16 months, we still get along ok. I still have times of sadness too. When I really unpack it and think about why I’m sad, it’s usually for the kids sake, or I’m missing having a partner that was my best friend… it’s not necessarily him, just what we had for a long time. I think it’s totally normal, the relationship meant a great deal and it’s ok to grieve the loss of someone you loved and wanted to spend your life with. Be patient with yourself, allow yourself to feel sad and then do something that will make you feel good. I keep a gratitude journal… everyday I write down 3 things I’m thankful for. That seems to really help me put things into perspective and realize I have it really good. You’ll be ok ♥️

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The more you are pushing these feelings away the more you will feel sad, to heal you need to allow yourself to feel every emotion that you will feel, good and bad, it takes time.. 8 years is a long period of time, I've been with my ex for nearly 3 years and took me around 8 months to feel good and don't miss him anymore. I feel healed but meanwhile I'm doing therapy from 7 months now, don't rush the healing process, you will be fine and ready to be over him.

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It will be a long time since you were together so long. I was with my first husband for 13 years and I swear it was like 3 years for me to feel ok. Now many years out and happily remarried, I rarely think of him.

How long does it take the heart to heal?

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