Sleeping 9 month old

My daughter is turning 9 months on the 29th ! And she’s is literally worst sleeper ever she only slept once through the night but that was just once she’s has always been a “bad sleeper “! She only takes 20to 30 mins naps and at night it’s the freaking worst smh . I can’t smh she wakes up almost every 40 minutes ( mainly cause I think pacifier comes out ),I’m guessing that’s the reason i honestly don’t know she’s always been a bad sleeper I tried playing around with her schedule but she’s still the same ….. she sleeps a little bit if I hold her or lay her next to me ( I do that when I desperately need sleep.) She literally wakes up crying up crying and proceeded to stand in her crib and crying . I miss having my husband next to me at night .

I tried doing the CIO method and Ferber method and she’s still not sleeping through the night.

I can’t do this is very hard I feel like crying and giving up . I constantly have headaches from the lack of sleep . I drink coffee in the morning to help coup through the day but now that doesn’t help me stay awake I’m just exhausted and over it !

I just want a break! But when you tell my husband that he tells me he’s always tired since he has a 9-5 job and that he has classes from 6-10. Like I know you are tired too but being up almost every couple hours and then during the day trying to get food cooked house cleaned (that’s if he lets me do anything smh separation anxiety) …….I feel like I’m the only one who has been doing the parenting on my own. I’m a SAHM and I’m exhausted I feel like giving up.

I do love my girl but I’m just tired.

I always wanted a big family (3-4 kids) but after her I’m honestly so scared I won’t be able to handle it.