Tinder Passport

Ok… so. You’re going to want a cup of tea and some alone time cause we’re about to get into things.

I met this guy on tinder passport. He lives in Hawaii and I’m in Australia. He’s super cute, very consistent (even though it’s been a month, he’s still consistent??) We FaceTimed the 3rd day from when we started talking, and from that time we’ve FT’d a couple more, talking non-stop throughout the week, etc. So here’s the catch… he is 10 years older than me (I am 23), he’s divorced (or so he claims), has 3 kids (his youngest child is 2 and the mother is not his ex, they’re sorting through custody).

I am naturally already a “careful” person, like it takes alot for me to let anyone in. So, he’s admitted to a lot of mistakes he’s made in the past and how he’s gotten help for it (he cheated on his ex-wife, before they got married, he told me they got help and got married, but decided to separate because they had differences they weren’t able to sort through). We’ve spoken about his past with drugs n alcohol and how he has been in recovery and sober for a few years. He’s an absolute sweetheart, he’s a great dad to his kids, he’s very, very consistent and is a good communicator and very respectful.

I’ve been on dating apps tinder/bumble/hinge for a good 2 years now and I have never met a guy like him. I’ve had my fair share of ghosters, and I’ve had my fun being part of the hookup culture and for the streets, but I think I could really see a serious relationship with him. Today he admitted that he likes me and that he sees a future with me but … we haven’t even met yet (despite FaceTiming so many times).

I’ve never been in a relationship and long distance is hard enough in itself (so far we’re managing pretty ok).

So … should I give this a chance… or because of his past, and to avoid baby-mumma drama or anything like that, should I abandon ship?

Please advise a sister ✨