Husband makes me feel guilty for going out and having fun while he works all day

Okay, so I don’t work.

My husband works a crazy amount.

It’s summer, so I’ve been going out pretty much everyday.

I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old. They like to go to my moms house and go swimming in her pool, we go to the beach with my mother in law, my sister in law comes a lot with her kids. I do play dates with a few mom friends.

If we aren’t going swimming or to the beach, we go to the park, or the petting zoo, aquarium, or library

I will admit, going out with my kids is not really as always as fun, especially when I take them to the beach by myself. A lot of times, I really would rather stay home, than go out with them. They get cranky, have tantrums. It’s not always like a great time. It’s a lot of work, and not relaxing. The problem is, my kids get stir crazy. They don’t want to be in the house all the time.

My husband always makes me feel guilty. Every day he’s like, oh you get to go have fun while I am stuck working all day. He says it literally every day. Sometimes I don’t even want to tell him my plans for the day because he guilts me.

I feel bad, because we have been doing a lot of stuff this summer.

I always try to plan fun things when my husband is off on the weekends. Like last weekend, I planned a beach day for the family, and a few of his friends came. He had a great time.

Also, my town every Friday night, they have kind of like a street fair. They have live music, and lots of food, sometimes they play movies on a projector at the park. It’s really fun, but my husband doesn’t want to go ever. It’s after work, so he’s tired, but I always tell him like if he wants to go, we can definitely go. I always try to get him to go have fun when he can.

I do all the house work. We will not go out and do anything until I do my daily cleaning, wiping counters, mopping the kitchen floor, doing atleast one load of laundry, making breakfast for everyone, cleaning up breakfast, u loading dishwasher. I leave my husband lunch (he works from home) dinner is always ready by 6. I am not neglecting my responsibilities to “go have fun”. I also do everything for my kids, like everything. He hasn’t changed a diaper since our oldest was 6 months old. Baths, bedtime, everything all on me. I am not just frolicking around the beach lol

I really don’t know what to do- like my kids are little, and I’m not gonna be a stay at home mom much longer. I’m getting a job once my oldest starts kindergarten. Is it so bad that I do a lot of stuff with them??