Am I wrong for not working?

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I've been making posts about my arranged marriage and about me and my husband taking things slow and getting to know each other.
My mom was visiting me today and was wondering why I haven't gotten a job yet. I'm 18 and on my senior year of high school. My husband is 23 and works at a warehouse for medical stuff. My family is very big on money. I love my parents and know they love me but they have a "How can I get more money" mindset and are very materialistic. My husband's parents arranged the marriage for religious reasons while my family was for money and business reasons and told me if I didn't marry my husband I would not get my trust fund and be on my own at 18. My parents are both business people so they want me to be like that too and my mom thinks it's weird I've been 18 for 2 months and don't have a job. I told her I'm just trying to finish and enjoy my senior year and after I plan to get a job. But she's saying plenty of high schoolers woke and I need a job and said the oddest thing she told me was I need to not depend on a man which is weird since she married me off like I was property but I didn't say that. I do have money. I have money from my trust fund so I do contribute to the house with that. My husband hasn't complained about me having a job. He even takes me to school and has worked with me on my homework and seems supportive of me finishing high school. My mom is really pushing that I need a job and she didn't raise a house wife which is very different from what she told my husband's parents when they made the arrangements and assured his family I can cook and clean(and I can't cook) and have babies. I told my mom I appreciate her concern but this is my life and even if her and dad arranged a part of it for me in gonna choose how I live it and she called me an idiot. I don't just sit home and do nothing. I go to school and clean when I get home. We have mainly been eating take out but my husband wants to start cooking. I do plan to get a job after graduation but I want to enjoy this last year.
Thx guys. I was worried I sounded immature. I've been excited for my senior year and I want focus on graduating and walking the stage.

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I honestly can’t recover from the fact that you’re in an arranged marriage while also still a high school student. That is bonkers to me. I know this is outside my culture, and so difficult for me to relate to, but this just feels abusive. I don’t know. But I definitely don’t think you should be worrying about getting a job to contribute to household finances. Please just graduate high school.

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I think that this point you are married and it should be about what you and your husband want out of your lives together. If he is supporting you in finishing school and not having a job yet that's totally fine. Your family should not have a say in how your marriage works anymore outside of the arranged marriage since obviously it was them that arranged it. Whatever you and your husband choose to do or not do in marriage should be on you guys. Also the cooking thing if you choose to you can easily learn to cook through Google just look up recipes and try to learn or you and your husband can learn together. You guys are just getting to know eachother so I'm sure all these things will come up naturally. Just be sure to have open and honest communication about anything and everything. That way you guys can build a solid foundation for a happy and long lasting marriage.

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Your mom has no say in this. You're a married woman now. That decision is for you and your husband. And he supports you finishing school and getting a job later. Tell her that's what y'all have decided and that's the end of it.

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I feel like this is a discussion for you & your husband your mom needs to butt out ...

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She lost her “right” to tell you what to do the minute she married you off. I would start setting boundaries with your parents

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You're married and aren't her "problem" any longer. Do school first; if you guys are financially okay, you don't need a job (yet?).

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So you have your trust fund now right? I’m not sure how they work, but once it’s available to you they have no say in it anymore, correct? If so, you should tell your mom to mind her own business and stop prying into your life. You’re married now, these are decisions you and your husband discuss and make. 
Enjoy your senior year, you have your whole life to work if you choose to. If you want to be a SAHM, do that. Don’t let your mom control every aspect of your life.

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Tell your parents that you will be able to get a better paying  job with a high school diploma and for the hell of it talk about going on to college/university (unless your serious about that)

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I understand I have a different culture to yours, but I did get married young (20 and my husband was 19) However, we met on our own. I think at this point, if your husband is supportive of what you're comfortable doing right now ( waiting to get a job) definitely don't put too much pressure on yourself. Maybe start learning to cook, it gets easier over time. :) take advantage of recipes, they help a lot with inspiration.

Am I wrong for not working?

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