My mum's taking away the fun and excitement.

I'm having a little bit of a rant.

I am a single, first time mum and having some issues with my mum about how I want to go through this pregnancy.

I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant and overly excited about it. The baby's father decided the moment I told him that he doesn't want to be involved, so now it feels almost like my mum is trying to step into that role.

She's my adoptive mum, so I'm letting her be involved since she didn't get to go through the journey herself, but it's starting to get to the point where she's taking over. She's told me I can't announce on social media until SHE tells the family, half of which I'm not close with so I'm not bothered with them knowing. She has told me NOT to go privately at 16 weeks to find out the gender, just wait until the 20 week scan. And now she's making a whole issue about me wanting to do a gender reveal, as if it's the most ridiculous thing she's ever heard of.

I understand she thinks she's being helpful with it but she's honestly just taking all the joy and excitement of my pregnancy away from me and I don't know what to do. Anytime I've tried to explain to her that with this being most likely my only pregnancy, and the only blood family I have, I want to do certain things my way she just starts acting like I'm being unreasonable.

Help?