Irrationally annoyed with my friends-am I an asshole?

I realize this is a me problem more than a them problem but both of my closest girl friends have been annoying me to the point where I don’t want to talk to them. I don’t know what my problem is. My husband says it’s not me and they’re just annoying but he might just be trying to make me feel better.

Can someone tell me, am I just an asshole or are my friends as annoying as I feel they are? 😂

Friend 1- a constant nervous anxious mess. Constantly talking about Covid with three masks on her face. Constantly complaining about her weight but eats a tub of icecream every night. Constantly complaining about her mother being a bitch to her yet she continues to live with her at 33 years old. Always crying, always in a mood. Always needs advice to do or say anything. Fragility is on another level.

Friend 2- a know it all who lies about weird shit. Any time I say anything she feels the need to add on to it or “correct me” or “teach me something”. Ex. I point out a hummingbird on a flower. She goes on a 5 min lecture about the species of hummingbird and who classified it’s genus, etc. Asks me “did you know that? Hmm?” as if I’m stupid. Lies about her 4 year old to people being some undiscovered genius and how he’s reading chapter books. I see this kid weekly, he’s a regular/average child. Lies to people about how she was an ecologist in Washington state. She only has her GED and has only had one job in her life, at a daycare.

Like they obviously have traits that I like too, and I genuinely do care about them as people. But I’m just constantly so annoyed. How do I chill out? How do I just let them be and stop judging them so much? Why am I such an asshole? 😂