Would you be annoyed?

Question

Okay I’m really not trying to sound like an ungrateful asshole… 
My birthday is on Tuesday but my husband has to work that day so we decided to go out to dinner last night to celebrate. We had my SIL watch the kids so it could be just a date night because that’s all I wanted. 
After dinner, I asked my husband to go to Spirit Halloween before we get the boys and he said no.
I said it was fine because I was super tired anyway & couldn’t wait to get home and watch our show & spend the night together once the boys went to bed. 
Then we got the boys & one of our sons was begging to go look at our house that’s being built & my husband said no. 
We get home and a couple of our other friends were at the house to surprise me. 
It was really sweet and nice, but literally the week before hand, my husband kept trying to plan a big birthday dinner for me & I kept saying no because I just wanted to have a nice date night just him & I. 
These are “our” friends according to him, but really they’re his friends that I’ve become friends with since we’ve been together so long. 
I texted my husband saying “I don’t want everyone here all night.” And then he goes to the store with his friends & brings home THREE bottles of liquor. 
I was sitting on our bean bag chair (I’m 26 weeks pregnant & it’s the most comfy spot for me) and everyone is taking shots and screaming at the games we were all playing & just overall acting crazy. 
The kids went to bed & my husband made a comment that I look tired and should go to bed… lol okay. 
Eventually I said “I’m gunna go to bed in just a little while” then went pee. 
When I went to the bathroom, he brought in my phone and my stuff to our bedroom, our friends were sitting in my spot on the bean bag now, and my husband gave me a kiss and said goodnight. 
I felt like I was being shoved out of my own birthday celebration, that I didn’t even want in the first place. 
My husband & everyone continue to hangout until 1am & this morning, my husband leaves to watch football at 9am this morning with all the same friends from last night and still hasn’t come back at now 10pm. 
I didn’t say anything to my husband about last night because I know he had good intentions, but what do you guys think?
Would you be annoyed by this?

Accepted Answer

I wouldn't only be annoyed. I would be furious.
I bet he was in on it. He said no to the other things because he knew they would be there. Despite the fact he also knew, you didn't want it!
He was more concerned about his needs than your needs. And it's your birthday so that's just really fucking shitty imo.
I'm so mad on your behalf right now 😅

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I would be annoyed. He didn’t care to celebrate you.

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He’s rushing you out for what?
I’d cause a whole scene and have everybody in that bitch gone and unhappy.

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That would piss me off, he just used you as an excuse to get drunk so  to his friends. Didn’t care about your wishes.

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Well when he tries to call that your birthday celebration make sure you inform him that it was just a celebration for him cause I had nothing to do with you￼

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Your pregnant so your not being a asshole and the fact that he invited friends over after you said no is wrong. It seems like he just wanted to have a good time and had other plans than tryout actual plans I would be pissed

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I wouldn't stand for this at all!

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Sounds like he was celebrating his own birthday to me....you voiced your wants and needs and he blatantly ignored you to party...bet your ass I would be more than annoyed lol

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I know you were put in a sticky spot, but I wouldve pulled him aside and told him they can stay an hour and thats it. No liquor store. When he came to say goodnight, say I would rather not go to bed alone on my birthday. He may have intended to surprise you with what HE thought was fun, but that wasnt what you wanted and he ended up throwing himself a party. But that needs to be communicated so it wont happen again. Some people say nah dont do anything for me for my bday but they are just being modest, but he actually offered you a get together and you said no... he needs to know that when you communicate that you want a quiet night with just him, you actually mean it.  And if you feel like he dismisses you regularly to go hang out with them eg the next day he just vanished on you all day, or he tends to just do whatever he wants even when you clearly voice your wishes, you have a bigger relationship issue, and the birthday thing was just a symptom of that.

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Your husband is an asshole period. I would’ve called his ass out immediately but that’s me. Many women on here don’t have a backbone I’ve noticed…

Would you be annoyed?

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