I absolutely hate staying alone. What would you do?

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My fiancé has a bachelor party this weekend for a high school friend. The location is 2.5 hours from where my fiancé grew up and about 4.5 from us We’re 3 hours from where my fiancé grew up. 
I kind of assumed I’d go home for the weekend and see my mom. Last time we were home my SIL brought up seeing us in a few weeks(her husband is also invited to the bachelor party). My fiancé immediately goes “I’ve got xyz bachelor party I’m not coming home” then my SIL says “oh I thought (me) would be coming home for the weekend” and my fiancé goes “she’s probably staying at the apartment”
I map the route and from our apartment and all 3 suggested route take him through a state that’s not where we grew up. I bring up how the map says he’s going through XYZ and he tells me he found a route going through the state we grew up in on a highway we always take to get home. Says it’s only 8 minutes longer and he’s going that route because he knows it best. I cannot find that route and adding a stop in our home state to get it to go that route adds an extra hour on. 
He’s refusing to take time off to go to the bachelor party so his original plan was to leave around 7 pm Friday and get there around midnight. Then he changed it to “I’ve got lots of work to do maybe I’ll go up Saturday instead” the last idea he had was leaving tonight to go to his mom and work from home tomorrow and head up after. Seems like the best idea because it’s a shorter drive from his moms and I could also head home because I WFH. He has not brought up leaving tonight so I think that’s out. 
I don’t really want to stay here the weekend. I have no friends because we moved recently and I don’t currently have a car so my only option is sit in the apartment 95% of the day and go for a short walk to break up the day. I also have fear/anxiety over staying alone. I stay alone when I have to but I literally wake up every 20 minutes in a panic throughout the night. 
Idk what to do. My fiancé is the type to do what I want but complain after about doing it. Like tell me if I want to go home he’ll meet my mom somewhere or drop me at home but then make subtle comments about how late he’s going to get to the bachelor party. He eventually gets over it. 
What would you do? My mom doesn’t want me being alone for the weekend and has offered to meet my fiancé at anytime of the day on Friday or Saturday morning to get me and also offered to meet him Sunday to drop me off. Ok

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I don’t understand anxiety and not trying to be mean but you gotta learn how to function alone. You can’t be dependant on another person.

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I think you need to see a therapist as it sounds like you have a bit of co-dependency going on. It’s only a couple of days and you need to learn how to enjoy your own company! Good luck 💗

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I’d go home honestly. He can get over himself.

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I would get him to take you to meet you mom regardless how he feels 😅 I hate being alone at night to & if he don't want you tagging along he better take you to meet you lol 🤣

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I don’t like being alone either but the fact that he will make subtle hints about that makes me wonder if you should just stay home. I do have to say my puppy and my weighted blanket help me sleep better when he’s gone.

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I really don’t know why he can’t modify his a trip a little to drop you off, but also, you really need to sort yourself out. It’s not healthy to be so reliant on someone else. What are you going to do if he’s in the hospital or needs to go care for his family or whatever? Why not just drive yourself to your family?

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I understand that you don't like to be by yourself have you ever thought about maybe seeing a therapist. Because that's kind of codependency issues.  if you want to go see your mom go see your mom. Like if you can't make up your mind make up your own mind and go stop waiting for him.

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It sounds like you already know what you want to do and don’t want to hear others opinions. Some pills are hard to swallow

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You sound extremely codependent and kind of annoying actually with how much thought and emphasis you are putting on the whole trip almost to the point that you’re causing yourself unnecessary anxiety. Stay home if dropping you off is going to inconvenience your fiancés plans, and if not than go home, but at the end of the day go
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Therapy because it shouldn’t be a huge ordeal to stay home for the weekend.

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Definitely talk to a therapist about your anxiety. You don't want to live your life being a slave to what's are doing. I would challenge yourself to stay alone for the weekend.

I absolutely hate staying alone. What would you do?

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