Anybody unexpectedly fall pregnant??????

Question

I posted this in the first trimester of course the wording to will be different but I just found out that I’m pregnant with my fourth baby and I was on birth control awaiting my appointment to get the procedure of tubal removal and now I am just depressed I cannot believe I am pregnant three kids is hard enough for me more than enough to be honest I don’t know how I’m going to do this I never expected this to happen I know babies are blessings and I know some people aren’t lucky enough to have kids but that doesn’t change the fact that taking care of three alone while your husband‘s always at work isn’t hard I feel for the people that cannot have kids but just cause I can are you can does not justify the fact that We had unexpectedly fallen pregnant how are you coping with this situation I’ve only known for three days and I just don’t feel like myself this is supposed to be a happy moment but it’s not for me

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It's okay to be sad, scared, or even just straight up pissed off. I'm pregnant with my fourth unexpectedly as well. I was on the pill (sprintec specifically) and my boys were 5, 3, and almost 2. My middle one is special needs, nonverbal, and not ready for potty training. He's a great, wonderful kid but being nonverbal and unpotty trained means it's a lot like having a 1 y/o in a 3 y/os body because I'm still having to anticipate his needs. He also needs more attention than other children to help him catch up on the milestones and things he's missed. 
I have gone through an entire range of negative emotions since I found out. Disbelief at first. Then fear/nerves. Then sad. Then I was just straight up pissed off because I did what I was supposed to by being on BC and this was not supposed to happen. Now I have to split my time even further between my children. Now I have to fit four carseats in a highlander which means replacing two expensive carseats with more narrow ones and buying an infant one. Then I found out baby is a girl. I was expecting and wanting a boy because I have three boys and so many boy clothes and boy things. And my 5 y/o just started K this year and my 4 y/o a SPED preschool. Things were about to start being LESS hectic here. 
But as time went on, my anger faded and so did the sadness. The fear is MOSTLY gone. For the most part, I've gotten excited about her. I still have the occasional "omg how am I going to do this" moment or even the occasional flicker of guilt because now my attention is split even more between my children. But overall, the negative feelings really have gone and I don't wish I wasn't pregnant. Even can say I'm glad it happened at this point. I'm 24+3 now. I think it was around 15 weeks or so that most of the negative feelings were going or gone.

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Don’t feel guilty for not being happy. It’s normal. You weren’t actively trying, in fact you were actively trying to prevent it & it still happened.. it’s OK to be upset, your feelings are valid. I’m 8 weeks pregnant with my third, I have a 6 month old & I was on birth control & EBF when I found out I was pregnant again. I think I felt stress more than anything else when I found out. I do have to say I am warming up to it a little more now, but I definitely still have my moments of doubt. It’s just going to take time mama💗. Allow yourself to go through the emotions.

Anybody unexpectedly fall pregnant??????

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