was i raped?

last night, i hung out with a guy who i know through a mutual friend. i invited him over and the vibe was flirty. it was evident he wanted to have sex to which i said no many many times to, but said i would be down to give oral or a handjob to him instead (which i genuinely wanted to do so it wasn’t forced). anyways, despite my compromise, he kept trying to convince me to have sex in a playful and flirty way. he would attempt to finger me and then try to push my shorts to the side to start having sex with me. or attempt to kiss my body but work his way down and try to take my shorts down so he could have sex with me. i rejected all these advances and told him no. i included it wasn’t even a good idea because he didn’t have protection. to get both of us off, we did tease each other and yes i did tease him by dry humping him and i got really into that. we also did this thing where he “fucked me” through my shorts and panties material. so we could feel each other’s parts but it wasn’t actual sex. he kept pushing the limits, by pulling aside my underwear trying to get his penis head into my vagina and making “just the tip” jokes. i again told him i’m not having sex with him

after we teased and he dirty talked in my ear about how bad he wanted to have sex with me, i laid on my stomach and told him i think i was ready to go to bed. that’s when i felt my shorts pulled down and him playfully mount on top of me saying “just the tip” then he went on to mumble dirty talk. he started to have sex with me and it all happened so fast. he finished about a minute in and the whole time i was stone. as soon as he finished, i started crying. he explained that he thought that i was joking about not wanting to have sex since i was engaging in the teasing and dirty talk.

so was this rape? or was it consensual/okay because i engaged in the sexual foreplay with him? i’ve been on and off crying about this all day. i’m not sure what happened but i know something doesn’t feel right. please give your thoughts❤️

update: thanks for the responses. i acknowledge that i am at fault. i was trying to find a way for us to still have fun without going all the way (and in a way that also felt good for both of us) but i ruined it. i will not report him and have not told anyone about the situation as i don’t want anything to happen to him nor am i in the right mental state to share with anyone. i have gotten tested and will take a break from intimacy.