3 weeks pp

I feel defeated everyone has something to say about how I am with my kids. I have a two year old, a 1 year old and I have her a schedule I didn’t have my son on one and they ( his mom and aunt ) said I should have gotten him on one so I’m working on that but his aunt came to pick up my son for the weekend because they missed each other and my 1 year old is normally napping at 12-3 or 1-3 with the 2 year old but since she was getting him I just kept him up so he wouldn’t be mad . I know my little girl will go back to sleep or fall asleep if I leave her be in her crib. But she woke up after being asleep for maybe 30 minutes so I was just gonna leave her in there because she wasn’t crying and had a fresh diaper . But she comes and she wakes up and I’m like no I’m not gonna go get her it’ll mess up her schedule but then it got turned around to I wouldn’t get her and I left her to cry( she wasn’t crying she was talking and playing) now I feel bad because they talked to each other ( husbands mom and aunt ) and his mom calls him and tells him I was keeping her locked away and not letting her out so as soon as he walks in (where’s the little girl ) she was taken a little nap because she didn’t before … like shit I can’t win. She could’ve told me to let her out I mean I got her once she wasn’t going to sleep…

Sorry if this doesn’t make sense I just feel like I can’t win since having my last baby…