Am I an A-hole?

I don’t feel the excitement in my relationship anymore. It was exciting in the beginning because we were doing new things together and going out late at night and now we barely see each other.. when we do all he wants to do is watch movies and cuddle. Don’t get me wrong, I love it. But not every. single. time. Like I’ll suggest going kayaking or going to a bar downtown and he’s just not into it. It’s always “I have to work tomorrow” or “then I’ll have to shower before we go and I just don’t feel like it”. Even with his friends too! They will call him and ask to do something that night and it’s the same answer as always! I tell him I would love to go, since I know them as well and we used to all hang out all the time. He says no, like always. He has ED. Or, at least I THINK he does. He refuses to go to the doctor about it and says it’s just nerves. 2 years and we have never had sex. Just hand stuff. I think it’s important to have a sexual relationship that’s good and he does not care. I just feel like he no longer cares but he showers me with gifts. He will buy me things I don’t even ask for. Which is great, but I just feel like I’m missing something more important.

I consulted with my closest friend about this and she had told me that this is just how relationships go when you are a couple years in and comfortable with each other. Is it so wrong to ask for excitement?

I’ve been thinking of breaking things off… my friend says I’m being over dramatic and that’s a stupid reason to break up with someone. I’m torn. I feel unfulfilled and major FOMO yet I also feel this obligation to stay. I know it sounds wrong… I love him. I just don’t know if I am IN love with him still. That should be enough reason to break up with him, I know. Everyone just keeps telling me I’m wrong.

What do you think?? Would I be wrong to break things off??