So much of my husband's behavior finally adds up

Two days ago I made a post about my taking my MIL out drinking because she got she is going through divorce number 5. She got plastered and broke down crying saying she chases men and blames herself for my husband befriending an older guy in high school and this guy drugging my husband when he was 19 and in college and selling him off to be trafficked and a sex slave for 4 years. My husband has NEVER told me this and we've been together 10 years. I haven't mentioned I know but so many things about my husband add up. He is in therapy but he told me it was for depression and OCD. My husband is also an extremely skittish person. You have to make yourself known and not stand behind him. Also he doesn't go out to clubs unless I or his sister goes with him. He also doesn't have almost any male friends. He has one guy he considers a friend from his D&D group but he doesn't get close to him much. The only close friends he has are females. Also with sex he needs me to tell him exactly what I'm doing ok r he will lose his erection from anxiety. Another thing that makes sense is his nightmares. Sometimes he has nightmares and sometimes they get so bad he wets the bed. But that only happens maybe 3x a month and sometimes less than that. It hurts my heart because i used to think all men were bad because I have had an abusive dad. But my husband doesn't have a single bad bone in his body. He will and even HAS given a stranger the shirt off his back. He's not the type of person to hide from people trying to sell him something or even Jehovah witnesses. He answers the door, listens to what they have to say, respectfully declines and offers them a snack for the road lol. He is an extremely sweet and pure person. I've never even heard this man yell so the fact that he's been through so much pain hurts me and I haven't mentioned what his mom said to me because he hasn't ever mentioned that and I'll admit it hurts he never trusted to tell me, but I don't want to take that away from him. It's just been hard to pretend idk.