I never know how to feel about my mom and sometimes I feel like I’m overreacting? I’ve personally dealt with my mom who was very harsh growing up. She wasn’t harsh till i was like 11 and we moved into a new house in the same neighborhood which is pretty safe. When i was young i went to my bestfriends house everyday and we would go hang out with friends. As soon as we moved that stopped and my mom became super strict. She took my phone the entire summer when she found out i had a middle school boyfriend IN SIXTH GRADE so i lost all the new friends i made. Called me a prostitute and told me to go to the corner of the street when I cut a shirt into a crop top (didn’t even show my belly really) in 7th grade.

Never let me go to any school events or hang out with friends. I missed prom weekend cause they didn’t let me go, promised to take me skydiving instead and we never went. They told me if I stay close to home I can get a nice car. I got a 2016 honda accord. When covid happened I saved up about $10,000 of unemployment money and they took $6000 to pay off the car without really asking me. They felt entitled to it. They also took $1200 for my college payment and my college sent a Care fund check ($1200) to me which they also took to pay for college. I understand the money went to my needs but they never asked if it would be ok. They never took my brothers money and they paid for dorming + the full 4 years AND bought all 3 cars he totaled. Recently, in May, I brought a guy home for them to meet and I accidentally ended up pregnant. I went to the ER with my mom for food poisoning and the doctor violated HIPPA and told her I was pregnant, IM ABOUT TO BE 22 BTW. Anyway she goes on to tell all of my immediate family and force me to cut off my boyfriend or threatened to kick me out. They made it seem like I was the one being naive and ignorant just bc neither me or my bf wanted to keep it yet I still wanted him in my life. They said “any guy who doesnt want his own child will not love you” like wtf?? Maybe we’re just not ready and still developing our relationship and an accident happened???? She also called me easy and didnt give me much privacy. At the abortion appointment, which i did not want her to come to, she said she “feels like shes committing a crime” One day she asked for my location since I was going to my friends house and I said no because the minute the location turns off she blows up my phone. She threatened to take my car away 🥴 I just feel so conflicted because I know my behavior hasn’t been the best cause of my depression and anxiety, nothing crazy just attitude everyone has, but I know she’s so strict and emotionally abusive. Yet I always find a way to blame myself and I tell myself “maybe they’re right” or maybe I should be more patient. My brother always plays devils advocate and tries to get me to see their side but it just makes me feel invalidated. He always had freedom growing up so he’ll never understand.