I want to start off by saying my husband is a great husband and dad. He truly is and I’m so lucky. I never question his intentions or his loyalty. We both come from broken homes and are raising our kids in a totally different environment than we were raised.

We just had our second baby, our first is 2. The transition is really testing our marriage I think. We love each other so much but haven’t had much of a “spark” which is to be expected I suppose. I’m just sad about it. Now our son is sick and I’m sure our 7 week old will get sick. We both hate seeing our babies sick. No sleep, no alone time, it’s all just getting to us. I just needed to vent, we are taking it out on each other getting really snippy and sassy. I don’t think we have ever snipped at each other like this before. It makes me sad. I know marriage is hard, especially when you add kids. I feel like we are not communicating as well as we normally do.

We do have a date night Saturday to go to a concert which I’m extremely excited about because we never do stuff like that, but my perception is he is not as excited. He says he is , but he seems stressed or preoccupied by other things. Ugh!

Also I go out to dinner with some girlfriends 1-2 times a month every once in a while (not every month) and every time I do I feel guilty leaving him with both kids because he’s tired too and works all day. I’m still on maternity leave. He texts me the entire 2 times I’m gone about how he is tired and has things to do and he can’t get the baby to stop crying. He says he’s just venting about it to me but like it makes me feel bad being out with friends for dinner. He doesn’t have many friends but is mostly friends with sibling’s. I try to encourage him to go out with his siblings too to get some time like that, but he doesn’t because he feels guilty leaving the kids lol it’s a vicious circle. I think it’s important for us to spend time together and alone or with others.

Ughhh okay I just needed to vent about it all. I’m open to advice too lol.