Has anyone experienced this with their partner?

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My husband (32) and I (newly 35) just started TTC and the last two times he hasn’t been able to finish because he is thinking too hard or is getting tired out. Has anyone else’s partner experienced this and any suggestions? 
Family gave us the advice to have fun and not make it work, but I think we’re both getting into our heads too much 😅. Thanks all!

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In the beginning he would psych himself out thinking about it maybe 2 or 3 times so I kept tracking my cycle and ovulation and just didn’t tell him when it was go time. Took pressure off and more fun.

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Definitely. Performance anxiety is real. My husband and I tried way way to hard for our first. It ruined our sex life for awhile. So I started not telling my husband when it was go time and tried to have fun all through the month so he never knew if I was ovulating or not. And he never asked. Been pregnant 5times in 5years so something is working. Try to not make it business and just enjoy the moment. Every time we stopped trying so hard. I got pregnant.

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Yep! My boyfriend wasn’t able to finish. I at first took it personally thinking omg he’s not attracted to me anymore. But then he finally came out and said the pressure got to him and he got in his head about it. So from now on I probably won’t tell him when it’s actually go time lol.

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Oh yea girl!!! It’s common!!

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So my husband and I went through this during the summer. We had been trying since February but after a chemical pregnancy in August I began overly calculating my ovulation days, fertile window, temp etc. my husband began to go through a dry spell from it all and felt we were forcing the situation as much as we said if it happens just let it happen. 
We talked about ways we can just have fun again. We talked about our fetishes and decided to do things perhaps out of our comfort zones but to help spice things up. We also decided if we didn’t get pregnant by the end of the year we would put our energy into our next vacation. 
Putting that all into it as well as me not calculating as much I am now five almost six weeks pregnant. 
It really is like the sane of when you let go of the stress of trying that is when hopefully something happens. 
Wish you and your husband all the best 🥰

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I had this with my partner, he would be in his head.  I found what worked best for us was saying how horny I got when ovulating, that it was natures way of reproducing. That it I was very needy, and saying/reacting how responsive my body is during this time….. he gets off by getting me off, not by the idea of reproducing.  I also found the more we talked about it the worst.   Xx

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I’m 35 and my husband is 32 also! 😊

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Yes we tried for at least a year and a half after I got off birth control. I would tell him I was ovulating and we would try or it would be like he didn’t have a drive to do it. The month I decided to track it myself and not say anything to him and we’ll let’s just 10 weeks later there’s a baby in there growing.

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First super common, we went through it also to the point that at most of our cycles, my partner could come only every two days because otherwise he became stuck. What we did differently in this TTC cycle, first we talked about it, and to us, we would be over the moon to have a child, but I’m not with him for children but for him. Adding children to our family would just add more happiness. 
Two, as a therapist, I forgot to apply what I tell my clients. Seduction starts the moment you had sex. The flirting, the dating, the messages, smiles, the making sex position discoveries. Move from the performative sex mindset to pleasure-based sex mindset 
❤️

Has anyone experienced this with their partner?

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