When to introduce kids to new partner

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I have an almost 2 year old little girl, and my boyfriend has two boys, 3 and 4. We can both definitely see this turning into a very serious long term relationship, though we've only been together a month, we both have never felt this strongly about anyone before, and have an amazing bond. I have not had a significant other since leaving my daughters father and he(so) is in the same situation pretty much. When would be the right time to introduce my daughter to my boyfriend and his boys? Should I do it separately, boyfriend then all three once they're comfortable? Is there a milestone to hit in the relationship before introducing our kids? Any input is greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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Introduce them when things are actually serious. After ample time has passed, after you've really gotten to know the person and once marriage is truly on the table....THEN you make the introductions.
I know you are all wrapped up in the limerance of this new romance, and thats wonderful...I'm truly happy for you, but keep your little ones out of it until you have an idea of who he really is. You can't possibly know even .001% of what this man is about in less than a month. Have fun, enjoy the romance but protect your children above and beyond EVERYTHING. Full stop. 
Best of luck today and in the future.

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I personally feel like between 3 and 6 months like someone else said, you can have fun trips with the kids. you don't have to introduce eachother as a relationship yet, just go out with the kids and have fun.
I don't get waiting until marriage before introducing eachother to the kids and introducing the kids to eachother.
What if you marry him, then introduce him to your kids only to find out that he's awful to your kids 
or you meet his kids - no issue - he meets yours - no issue - but all the kids together and his kids never do wrong and yours is always wrong.
what if your parenting is not mergable, or neither of you are willing to make any adaptions towards the family? Are you able and willing to have different sets of rules for each kids?
Anyways if you wait until marriage.. You'll either be stuck or have to officially divorce him.

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I personally think you should be together much longer before introducing a man to your little child. She's too little to understand what dating is especially if she still sees her own father that could be very confusing to such a small child. I would wait quite a few more months. People get into new relationships and feel all the sparks at the beginning and it doesn't always workout how you hope, though I do hope it does for you. My main concern here would be the children not getting confused if they are introduced and then you all don't stay together. Also I could never trust a man enough after just 2 months to be around my child. I would need to know someone WAY longer before letting them see my child.  That's just how I personally feel about it.

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You’re going to get a lot of negative opinions on here because people have never been in this situation and it’s easy to judge from afar, but I’ve never had a problem introducing my kids to my SO after a month or two when things get official. Obviously be smart about it and take all of the precautions even though you trust them. Make it a public trip (don’t bring them to your house/go to their house) and never leave them alone with the kids just in case. I don’t tell my kids we’re dating or kiss in front of them or anything, it’s just a fun casual outing with mom’s friend. Especially when they’re that little they don’t understand the concept of dating so they won’t get confused about it or feel sad or anything if it doesn’t work out.

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Don’t have any personal experience in this but my gut would be sometime between 3 and 6 months. I feel like the first 3 months are often this infatuation honeymoon period and as you get closer to 6 months and beyond, you have a better feel for reality. And I would do the introductions one family unit at a time, not all together.

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A year at least. The first few months are blinding. You need to actually get to know this person beyond the best face they present.

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Personally maybe 2 years
I know I know, that’s way to long. But I haven’t had no luck in relationships and kids get attacked pretty fast. I’m currently having a latching problem with baby boy since he got so attacked to the father of the baby I’m currently expecting. He got out of not only my life but my baby boy’s life after finding out I was pregnant. Now my son constantly asking me about him, that fucking hurts my heart like hell. I’m glad my son is only 2 years so he won’t remember what’s going on right now.

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I'd wait a MINIMUM of a year. My mother introduced my brother and I to a lot of men between 3-6 months of dating. 3-6 months is NOTHING you have no idea who that person is. This is how my brother and I ended up veru hirt from several different men. It wasn't until my aunt literally knocked some sense into my mom that she started waiting longer. It kept men from being in and out of our lives and was also safer. Having so many men around wasn't healthy for us. We also as a family agreed on a rule, once we were older, that if my brother or I had a legitimate reason as to why we genuinely hated a man then she would end the relationship. My ex-step-sister was ALWAYS bringing different men around her daughter and it brought too much instability into the home and a bunch of problems. If something happened to my husband and I then I would wait 1-2 years before introducing a new partner to my children.

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stop right there. only been together a month? lmao don’t let kids meet yet

When to introduce kids to new partner

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